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writes:is there a difference between a woman who is a 'tease' and a woman who is a 'challenge'? i've been called both before and i worry about what this means and the image people have of me. i enjoy hanging out with guys but i've never been comfortable with/engaged in casual sex and i'm worried if it's my behavior towards them that makes them say this about me or if they're just frustrated by my views on sex. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): If you lose interest in a guy as soon as you know that you can get him, then you're a tease.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (7 March 2012):
 There are similarities and differences between the two. Here are the important ones:
Similarity: Both think that they are hot stuff and that guys will fall all over themselves to get their attention.
Differences: The tease is so obvious that the guys KNOW that she isn't going to put out for them, so they make only a 1/2-hearted attempt to get her to remove her clothes and get in bed. (IF they succeed, they are pleased and tell all their friends. IF they fail, they chalk it up to the "tease" being nothing more than a bit*h, and not worth them - or any of their friends - trying to score with her, in the future). The CHALLENGE is SO uber-hot that they will sell their souls.... and/or their classic Mustang... in order to get her to remove her clothes and get in to bed.... since EVERY GUY in the county wants to have her put out for them.... and the guy who succeeds will become a legend... FOREVER!!!!
Hope this clarifies matters for you. (Which ARE you???)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 March 2012):
 Unless you're purposefully tormenting guys by flirting with them without the intention of ever dating, try not to worry about those kinds of labels. They are just another way for guys to try to control women's sexuality and there's no way for you to win. Any guy can come up with a reason that you were interested and then call you a tease. Like, you smiled nicely at someone and then didn't want to date him. Most women who have rejected a guy gave been called a tease, just like most women have been a slut, or a bitch. You can't let it get to you because they are arbitrary labels meant to control women.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 March 2012):
 IMO, a tease is a woman who will NOT go through with her “flirtations” A challenge is a woman who can be worn down.
IF you talk about sex a lot and have no intentions of every going through with it, that could be considered a tease... why talk about it if it's with casual male friends if not to tease or assess interest?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 March 2012):
 I guess it comes down to two things, how you act and what kind of guy you are dealing with.
If they know up front that you DO NOT do casual sex and you don't overtly flirt or hint at sex, I don't think anyone ought to label you with being a tease. But that would of course hinge on the guy.
Having male friends and acquaintances doesn't make you a tease. Hanging out with guys doesn't make you a tease.
Hinting or semi promising sex but not "delivering" can be construed as a tease.
It guess it really comes down to you sticking to your values and being honest about who you are.
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reader, MistressNataliee  +, writes (7 March 2012):
I think that they are the same thing personally but it depends on the mens interpretation. The men that enjoy the thrill of a chase would probably call you a tease but those that prefer immediate gratification may call that same behaviour challenging.
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