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writes:I've noticed that there seems to be a link between women with small chests and them saying their boyfriends watch porn and they don't like it. I want to know is there anyone who is big chested and has a boyfriend who uses porn?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2014): "I'd hate it if he masturbated to the thought of girls he knows and is attracted to (he probably does but I don't want to know"
Funny really i'd prefer a guy to THINK of real people rather than VIEWING an immaculate woman on a screen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2014): I have a pretty large chest (32G) but my boyfriend happens to not really care for breasts -- he's more into my but. He does watch porn sometimes, not a lot I don't think, but I don't mind at all. I do it too, it's fun and it doesn't mean I love him any less. I never asked him though if he picks out porn movies with girls with smaller breasts on purpose, or if he doesn't care about breasts either way.If he did, maybe it would be some sort of proof that men watch porn to get what their wives or girlfriends can't give.Also, I might not mind him watching porn because I'm not insecure about my body. That's not because I have big breasts -- honestly I would have liked them a little smaller and less saggy -- but because I am more emotionally insecure; I'd hate it if he masturbated to the thought of girls he knows and is attracted to (he probably does but I don't want to know).
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2014): Don't really know anything about the porn BUT a psychologist friend once said to me that there is a correlation between men's preference in a woman's breast size and their relation to their mother ie. if a man had a bad relation with his mother, he unconsciously fears or loathes the breast and will gravitate towards women with smaller breasts, often remaining very, very suspicious of other women in general. Conversely, if a man has a great or even too-close relationship with his mother, he will gravitate towards women with larger breasts and see them as positive, nurturing and good - whilst he will see women with smaller breasts as mean, unyielding etc etc.
Personally I thought this was nonsense until I considered the problems I'd had in previous relationships and, reluctantly, admitted that there may be some truth in it. Later, I came across psychological texts such as those by Melanie Klein and it did seem to carry some truth.
In which case, it might make sense that men who gravitate towards women with small breasts have problems with their mother AND are suspicious of women with larger breasts, considering them untrustworthy and not 'pure' - so they might just gravitate towards porn with women with big breasts because they get pervy kicks from dabbling in the 'unpure' or that which they, at an unconscious level, despise but still need.
Or...it could all be absolute baloney.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 February 2014):
 I agree with YOUWISH as well.
Nothing to do with you OR your boobs.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (2 February 2014):
Yup. I'm skinny with huge boobs and my husband loves porn.
He's an ass man :-P
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2014): I don't believe there's actually a connection. I think it's mainly in the heads of small chested women who feel they are lacking. I also don't think they would feel any better if their men were watching other small chested women. They would then would just find some other way the porn women differ from them, and still assume their partners are watching them because they prefer them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2014): My boobs are 32E and ALL my boyfriends have enjoyed a bit of porn.
But you might be right about small-breasted women disliking it more (Not being one I couldn't possible comment.)
N.B REAL 32E boobs look absolutely nothing like the average porn star boobs. They're soft and pudgy and wobbly and pendulous and they change shape depending on the position you're in - fake boobs have only one direction which is OUT
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (1 February 2014):
 Hi. Big chested here. Husband was always a porn head.
Big chested with a flat stomach and a round butt.
He looked like a potatato.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2014): YouWish hit the nail on the head.If there's a link between a woman's breast size and how much she complains about her boyfriend watching porn, it's because women with small breast are more insecure about it and they notice it more or it bothers them more, not because their boyfriends actually watch more porn. Trust me, big breasted women's boyfriends use porn just as much.Not only because of what YouWish said, it's very true that a man's girlfriend's physical attributes have absolutely nothing to do with how much he watches porn(or what kind of porn he watches) - a man's porn watching habits are developed at a young age and don't really change for any reason - but also because the vast majority of men don't care about their girlfriend's breast size.Yes, some guys obsess over large breasts, and yes, bigger breasts may get a guy's attention faster...but once they're actually dating? That's way down on the list of things guys care about, if it's on the list at all.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 February 2014):
 There is no such link.
But you should know, in most mens eyes, boobs come in three sizes only. Small = you can get the entire boob in your mouth, perfect nibbling size. Medium = you can cover the boob with your hand, perfect grabbing size. Big = you need both hands to cover one boob, perfect for playing around with.
All-in-all, men do not define breast size as "too small" or "too big". Breasts come in the three sizes as described above.
Porn use is an entirely different topic, and is totally dependent on the person. Porn use is a habit or not a habit, it's something the guy either does or doesn't, no matter what his girlfriend looks like, and no matter if he's single or not.
The reason most women don't watch porn, if you ask my take on it (aside from those who have a moral standpoint against it, which you will also find in men), is that women don't know how to get off. They don't know how to masturbate. So why would they need any tools to help reach orgasm, when they have no clue how to reach an orgasm...
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 February 2014):
 A guy doesn't use porn based on anything that has to do with his partner. He uses it because he wants to. Some guys get addicted, others use it because they are single, or because they want additional sexual relief solo-style.
Let me ask you this - if porn is a solo thing for a guy, what does his partner have to do with anything? Porn has nothing to do with his partner's percieved physical deficiency. In fact, I'd wager to say that a woman sees flaws when her partner doesn't at all.
Don't think that a boyfriend or husband watched porn because there's something wrong with you, and don't feel like you have to measure up to some anonymous porn star.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2014): Sorry, I'm a b cup and my ex watched porn. I'm convinced they had aomething I didn't. I've noticed alot of women say they are small chested when they post questions about their boyfriends porn habits and their guys always look at big boobed women.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (1 February 2014):
 I like the wording in your post it leads me to redefine the question, if you don't mind.
1) Are you small breasted and does your boyfriend watch porn?
2) Are you small breasted and does it bother you that your boyfriend watches porn?
3) Are you large breasted and does your boyfriend watch porn?
4) Are you large breasted and does it bother you that your boyfriend watches porn?
I think we could get to the root of your question better by asking the question that way.
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