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writes:Hey. I have a problem. I'm 18. May be you would find it naive because I'm too yang and stuff, but I really need help here. Me and my (now ex) boyfriend (he's 21 now) dated for 10 month, we loved each other a lot and from the begining, as longer we've been together, as stronger our feelings become (no doubt that he loved me very much and had the strongest connection with me, also, he said that I was the best one and we were best together). But ever Since this New Year everything start going down the hill. On the new year I made a big mistake (we both wanted to meet new year together and stuff), the party we went to was boring so I left him there... I still remember his look (like I was leaving him forever). Then we started talking again but my all time problem that I always thought that he doesnt care too much and stuff, I wanted him always with me...In a week I "broke up" with him in a rage of anger. That week was very tough. We got back together and I explained him that I didnt really break up with him. After 2 month (March 2) he told me that his feelings are gone (he still care about me, and there is little something left but its all not the same). That was a big shock for me, it seems like my life lost its meaning... He told me that there is a chanse for his feelings to come back, but also to go away completly.He just need time and space.I'm so afraid that just one day he'll tell me that feelings not coming back... I wake up every day in fear. I can't eat and sleep.I love him so much (I never knew that I could have such a strong feeling to anyone) and I don't want to loos his feelings.Please, don't say that I'm too young and that I find other love and stuff like that ( I'm tierd of hearing it from my mom).What do you think? Is there a chance? Can love come back again? How do I get his true love back?
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 I understand how your feeling but you should really listen to what you are saying. You are going to wait around until his feelings change and he falls in love with you again. I think he is leading you on. You know in your heart what the answer is. If he is not in love with you now why would he love you in six months. And what if his feelings for you dont change you have wasted all that time waiting for him. Get a grip you are worth more than that believe in yourself would you not rather be with someone who loves you exactly the way you are. YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME ON THIS GUY. Your mum is right but when you are in love with someone you dont want to hear it. This is all part of life and whether you are 18 or 80 the pain can be exactly the same.
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reader, userid  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 Sweetie,We all go through it. It has nothing to do with age...It seems as though he has told you what he needs in order to figure things out. I think, no matter how much you will not want to do this, you need to give him space and time. I think sometimes men need a breather to realize what they have in their life and how important it is to them. Men and women have a tendency to overlook those special things in their lives...and we as humans think the grass is greener o the other side when it is not. Try to give him space. That includes phone calls as well...But also know...and PLEASE take this into consideration...do not wait forever...give him his time and space...just do not let him take advantage of that! Your time is precious as well. If he seems to play games...the back and forth is not worth it...you may, at that point, want to reconsider your devotion.Hope everything works out...cheer up...Everything will work out the way it is supposed to.BTW- please understand your Mom is only trying to look out for you. She just doesn't want you to rush into things. And you'll only realize and TRULY understand this when you are a little older.:)
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