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anonymous
writes: I know this sounds like a really cheesy cliché question that hundreds of women have asked many times but I'm more confused by my potential personal trainer. After going in to speak to one three days ago and asking about what the sessions involve/prices etc. I was expecting the big sales patter as they normally do. However, this guy seemed genuinely helpful and suggested I keep a food diary for the next two days then see him for a 'taster' PT session. I did feel an attraction to him and he just seemed like a nice guy but no reason to think he felt the same way. He sent me a few texts when I was at home just saying to 'be honest' with my food diary etc. although I wasn't expecting any contact until we met again. Anyway, today I went for the taster session as asked, with my food diary, expecting again to be straight into a sales patter after doing an exhausting quick workout. Instead, he took me into the quiet client room, went through what I'd written, and before you know it, an hour and a half had gone by. All the time, other members of staff came in and went, one even said are you finishing soon (and my PT guy said 'I'll be out in a sec') but went on for another half an hour. He then said go away and see how you get on over the weekend and think about your food choices, we ran out of time and didn't even do the session and come and see me on Monday. It was weird, because we spoke for so long and he didn't talk about money or try the hard sell so not sure why he spent so much time with me. I did feel there was something between us but again, he was so professional although smiled a few times and kind of looked at me a bit starry eyed the odd time. So what I'm asking is, was he just being an extra attentive salesman trying to butter me up (even though I made it clear I wanted sessions) or was he spending more time than what would be considered normal in the gym talking to a client? I still have not parted with any money! In other words, was he interested?
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (14 July 2013):
 Go with ur instinct. His behavior is professional but the fact he put u as priority is a huge indicator of interest.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (13 July 2013):
 To be honest this is about you!
You found the guy attractive and have the potential to spend time alone with him (training time) and you are doing what most women do when they are attracted to someone, you are reading way too much into the situation and trying to see if he fancies you.
If you are serious about having personal training sessions, you need to be really focussed on YOU and NOT HIM.
It would be so embarrassing if you misread the signs and then found out that he had a girlfriend, wife or even a boyfriend!!
The fact that he did not give you the hard sell was probably because you already told him you wanted sessions...so why would he HAVE to give you the hard sell??
If you want to pursue him then nobody is going to stop you, but you will be paying for the pleasure and might end up in a very akward situation.
Your mind is working overtime on this. You haven't even started and your already imagining a romance with him!! I suppose only time will tell (and money)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2013): Keep a client-to-trainer relationship, as long as money is involved. Always accept his attention as professional. Behave as you would with any other trainer.
Your giveaway is your immediate reaction at the beginning of your post:
"I did feel an attraction to him and he just seemed like a nice guy but no reason to think he felt the same way."
I attribute most of what is going on to your attraction to him. So many women get played by these personal trainer dudes. If you are a professional woman with financial success; he is looking for potential private clients. If he does private training sessions, he can make a lot of money.
If he had to be reminded by his co-workers to get on with it, isn't it pretty obvious he's going beyond the call of duty? Perhaps not for the reasons you're insinuating.
If he makes a pitch for private sessions; you've got him nailed.
Appreciate the special attention for all the "professional"
benefits. Be on guard for a potential player. He may be setting you up. Please don't get caught up in the attention of a pretty-boy. They use that to their advantage. It makes you easier to manipulate.
Yes it is quite cliche', and only too convenient. How about getting through your training first; then dating when the professional services are completed? Lest you decide you do want private sessions. Expect them to be expensive.
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