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writes:I am a married male of 14 yrs - I recently caught an email that my wife sent to a male friend and collegue of hers - who is married as well. Below is the exact note:"If I could close my eyes and then open them only to find myself there in the room with you watching you peacefully sleep well I'd TAKE YOU. And as I climb in bed and NOT gently or quietly either you'd wake up surprised and be like.......'ooohh yeah.....that's what I'm talking about'and I'd say...."ssshhhhh.......nnnooooo talking......." As that smile of yours appears on your face I disrobe.......completely.....in front of you. I love it when you watch me..........when you don't know....what I'm going to do next." When I confronted her she said it was all innocent and that they were just playing. I want to beleive her but as I read the note it appears to me that they have had sexual encounters before. Am I to believe my gut or what she told me? I love my wife and our children and would hate to think she had an affair.... What does anyone out there feel - is the letter real or fantasy? Please help I am torn... Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): Im not sure if this will help at all but although the email is specific it does not necesarily mean she is cheating on you. Speaking from experience if you were doing things like what is included in that email, there would be no need to write them down in the way she has and talk about them!
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reader, Uraz  +, writes (29 December 2007):
 I love it when you watch me..........when you don't know....what I'm going to do next
Come on...The above excerpt clearly implies that she has done it before.
Does she deserve your love? She looks like she likes and enjoy it. I wouldn't give her a second chance because she is in denial. is not in chock or afraid and does not expresses regret, remorse, to give you the hope that it will not happen again.
The email itself, even if we assume, it is just a play, is a good reason for you to punish her because it is flagrantly against the loyalty a proper marriage entails.
But it is clear to me she is a cheater and she will do it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): I bet she wouldnt see it as innocent if it was the other way round. You know her better than any of us. You want to believe her but it doesnt sound like you do. To be honest,neither do i.
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reader, mama2three +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Let her know how much this so called 'innocent' letter did to you. Let her know that it really hurt you, made you question her, and suggest that maybe you guys get marriage counselling. I don't know, this is all really strange to me, that doesn't sound like 'just playing' it's pretty darn specific!
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