A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:"If you truly love someone, you should let them go; if they come back, it was meant to be; if they don't, it never was." Is this really true? I'm one who believes in fate, not coincidence. I tend to over-think things through though. I've been going through a longtime depression over this older guy that I love so much. The attraction was mutual but nothing happened because a future together would have some very bad outcomes. I let him go though because I knew it couldn't be and I cared/care about him too much to ever see something bad happen to him. Almost a year ago, we met again and the attraction was still there. We kept things under-wrap though. Now we are going to see each other, but I'm so nervous. I'm thinking about talking to him and seeing if we can stay in contact. At the same time, I'm afraid it might all go wrong a blow up in my face though. Should I talk to him? Is us reuniting a sign or am I looking too deep? Please help! Thanks for reading. Reply to this Question
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reader, iluvsox  +, writes (24 July 2011):
First off, I just want to say that, yes, you are over thinking things. Just because you're meeting up again doesn't mean in the slightest that you're each other's soul mates and that its going to be a happily ever after. Like most kids your age, the prospect of a "previous lover" coming back is enough to make your head spin.
I'm not telling you to not believe in fate or destiny or whatever, but I believe that I'm in charge of my own destiny. I dislike destiny myself because I hate the feeling of feeling like I dont have control of my life. Take your own life by the reigns and pull it to the way you want it.
With any relationship, between employers and employees, between parent to child, between friends, between lovers.... the main thing to remember is to be as honest as possible. This isn't to say that you should be just out and say something but talk it through and see if he's in the same boat you are.
However, I will warn you to remain cautious. You said that you two being together would have some bad consequences, and whose to say that those have gone away?
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