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writes:Could readers please give their opinion. Is texting another person with flirty messages when both parties are married considered 'cheating'? My husband says it's just a stupid game to relieve boredom (yes you've guessed, he's the texter and I stumbled on some on his phone) but I think it's very hurtful and disrespectful. He says would he have left them on his phone if he thought they were incriminating or meant anything? He is making me feel like I am making a mountain out of a molehill and assures me there is nothing else going on and I am being paranoid. The content of the texts was just flirty innuendo with reference to feeling randy but nothing more explicit. Please tell me if you feel I'm being OTT (my husband has always been the flirty type but that's just the way he is and he can't understand why I take it so seriously!!!) or do you think my grievance is justified?Many thanks.
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reader, onefleshmin  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 If he was flirty while you all was dating then it is an accepted behavior. Plan a outing or a dinner at home with know distractions. Explain to your husband how it makes you feel when he is flirting with a another woman. Also, I suggest you flirt with your with your cell phone. Grab his attention with your womanly ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): Hi Eddie,
The worst I saw was 'Feeling randy at the thought of you in lacey undies' but she replied 'You're always feeling randy'. He said it was a general comment that men always feel like that. The other texts were just general banter with mild flirting. There were no explicit references to sex or anything raunchy.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 It would depend on the context of the texts. You didn't give much detail. Can you elaborate? If you are the jealous type then it's possible you see things where there is nothing. If you're not the jealous type, there may be nothing or there may be something. Nobody knows for sure.
Knowing that you don't like it should make him stop. Of course this depends on where you're coming from. What was in the texts?
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