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writes:I've liked a guy for about a year now and I'm starting to think I might be in 'love' but I've seen so many of my friends feel the same and get their hearts broken. I haven't told him about my feelings because I don't think he likes me, he's never in relationships and doesn't seem like the type and I think it would be really awkward if we got together. Also, I'm good friends with his twin sister so it might ruin our friendship. Should I tell him? And if so, how do I do it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2011): I wouldn't tell him. It could ruin your friendship. As for his sister might not like it, that is possible, I have seen many people's friendships ruined by one friends going out with the others siblings. It has also caused problems between the siblings. In each instance, the relationships didn't last and all that pain was for nothing. That is just what I have seen and personally I wouldn't do it. At the end of the day, you have to decide if you really want to take the risk or not. good Luck
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (27 August 2011):
 Hey, I personally think this is a decision that only you can make for yourself. You have to weigh up whether admitting your feelings to this guy is worth the risk? You say you don't think he feels the same way, so before making any declaration of your love, you firstly need to ask yourself whether you can handle potential rejection? Being rejected is painful and embarrassing, i've been there and it's something I would never like to experience again. It could kill your friendship.On the other hand, if you never tell him your feelings then you'll be always wondering 'what if'. Your friendship could become increasingly painful while you're wanting something more. There is also the chance that he could love you too, but is too scared to show it. If both of you are holding back, then you're making yourselves miserable by not being honest with each other. Would you want to miss out on the possibility of being together and happy? Really sorry I can't give you an answer to your question, it's just a difficult decision as there are negative aspects attached to whichever choice you make. I just wanted to give you a few things to think about, which hopefully might help. Give it some thought! Best of luck xx
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reader, Lilli +, writes (27 August 2011):
 I have been there and done that and it has worked out good and bad in separate cases but even in the situation he says he doesn't feel the same way, you can at least close that thought in your mind and move on.
I suggest you just bring it up casually, maybe even joking just to see his reaction. It can be nerve wrecking but once you have it done you will feel much better about things.
Best of luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2011): I personally don't think you should tell him just incase the friendship between you and his sister get awkward. The word 'love' is a strong concept and it can be sometimes difficult for a person at your age to fully understand or grasp the concept of love. There's a difference between like and love.
May I ask why you think he ma not like you??
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reader, AustralianGold +, writes (27 August 2011):
I think if you've liked him for a year then its about time you told him that first, rather than going straight ahead with telling him you love him. It might not even be love, you may just be feeling this because you've got yourself so emotionally attached to him. I've had an experience with an old flame where I felt like I loved him, but this all changed when I got a serious boyfriend. You never know what love is until it hits you, and you can't bare to see them unhappy, you'd do anything for that person and can't stand the thought of them being with someone else.If i was you, i'd maybe get his sister to have a talk with him and see what hes thinking, who he likes? if hes ready for a relationship etc. Then once you find that out you should try hanging out with him and getting to know him first, then telling him how you feel. I wouldn't tell him you loved him though, because that may scare him away as he isn't even aware you like him to begin with never mind love. This brings us back to the question of whether its just love or your attachment to him thats making you think you love him. If all goes to plan, then don't worry about ruining your friendship with his sister, just try and keep an even balance between being with a boyfriend and a friend. This is hard as, I find that when you get into a serious relationship you don't always have time for your friends anymore, but she should understand and being his sister would be an advantage as you would see her just as much as him, although you do need private time with him also. hope i helped!
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reader, josephy  +, writes (26 August 2011):
 You will never know if u don't tell him. I don't get why would his sister not be okay with you being with her brother?! Just go for it it's better than regret it later.he might like you but not sure about the way you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): Tell him....if he really loves you, he will respond favourably....if not, well, then he doesnt deserved you in the first place. Dont prolong the inevitable....you just agonising yourself. As for his sister, she should not get upset with you if she is genuine.
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