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writes:so i was at a party my friend invited me too (he's in the music industry, i'm not) and there was this girl i liked. it was a lot of people there from the entertainment industry. this girl was smoking hot, around 26 y.o. i was gonna go over and talk to her, but i noticed she was chatting with an older man in his 50s. not a particularly attractive man.anyways so i asked my friend who knew her a little if i should go over to her and if she was with this 50ish guy. my friend laughed and said, "yeah but just for tonight." i said "what do you mean?" he goes, "dude, get your head out of the clouds. he's rich and he has power. so she's leavin with him tonight. he gets her for a night, she get opportunities."Sure enough, she leaves with him in a about a half hour! i nursed a beer rest of the night.so is this really common practice? also i was thinking of asking my friend (who like I says knows her) for her number, but then i thought damn, if she sleeps around like that, it kind of lowers my interest in her, like she is a prostitute kinda.is this naive? would that turn you off too? or do i just have my head in the clouds??????
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 well since you believe that she is slutty you are right to avoid her as i don't think you would trust her and feel secure with her if you two ever did start a relationship together. its nice to hear that you have actually got a standard, lots of men would go with her anyway, even more so if they thought she would be easy. hopefully you'll meet someone in the future who is hot AND non-slutty
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for the thoughts, and persepectives. you helped me to think about this more.Since you took the time to write, let me respond to each of you.Cerberus: I hear you man but truthfully at this point in my life (i am almost 25) I am looking for long-term not casual sex. even tho this girl was hott!anonymous: thanks, i am glad to hear that it is not necessarily common practice.UniverseMan: LOL @ "hoodrat ass"anonymous: yeah, I do think its trashy. glad I am not the only one.angelDLite: well to be honest, the way she was acting led me to believe my friend was right. this girl was all over this 50ish guy, touching his arm, laughing at his (probably lame) jokes. at one point, he had his arm around her waist. and my friend is honest, not the kind to spread rumours for the sake of gossip.Drew21: interesting story about your mother. you did take the high road though, nothing to be ashamed of.Thanks folks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): Yeah that would be a major turn off although I have been the kind of guy that gladly picked up girls like that for casual sex.
It's not normal but it's very common, music industry means money and power, of course there will be girls that try to use their beauty to create opportunities. I wouldn't date a girl like that but I've slept with plenty of them. It's very easy when you play it right and honestly when a girl thinks you may represent a lucrative opportunity then that can be a pretty awesome night. They really try to impress, work hard and treat it like an audition.
In all honesty what you decide to do is up to you. But this girl uses sex as means of advancement. She wouldn't care who she shags as long as they can give her something. Do you really think a person like that is relationship material? I don't. She could be good for a shag if you want that though, you could do what I used to and just act like I had a lot of stuff going on, a nice bit of cash and was well connected. You'd be surprized what dropping a few names can do for a girl like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011):
No, it is not normal. My girlfriend was an actress and dancer. Now she works on the other side of things (producing). She is a very beautiful woman and she gets hit on a lot, but she politely declines. The people who are accepting of this think that they have to do it or they are so desperate for work that they will play any angle. However, it is not a requirement and in fact by doing it you catagorize yourself a certain way that may not be helpful to your career.
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reader, Universe Man  +, writes (2 June 2011):
First of all, did you ever speak to this woman? If not, why would you ask someone for her number? What do you think are the chances of her returning your call?"Is this common practice?" For some very beautiful women in the entertainment industry, this is probably common practice. On the other hand, if some gangsta is drivin around the hood in his ghettofabulous ride, he's gonna get some hoodrat ass. Same story, different world.A woman who trades sex for the attentions of a powerful man is sort of a prostitute. The history of men and women (and even males and females of some other apes) is a story of prostitution. Do I hold it against them? No. I like a woman who can rise above that, but that is sort of like being more than human. Likewise, I might appreciate a woman for her mind, but don't resent me for appreciating her boobs... deep down, I'm just an ape.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): Who cares if it's normal or not? That has nothing to do with it being acceptable.
If you think what she did is trashy (and who wouldn't?) then don't go after her.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (2 June 2011):
you don't know what happened between her and the 50year old that she left the party with really. how well does your friend know her? if what he says is true then yes this girl seems shallow and ambitious enough to do whatever it takes to get ahead in her career. if you cannot offer her any opportunities then she may not be interested in getting to know you.
however, maybe you could give her the benefit of the doubt, get to know her better and then YOU will decide what sort of a person she is. not everyone puts their morals aside for the sake of career success
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reader, Drew21 +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Eh, it probably is a bit naive. This is, like, your typical Hollywood story that you read about in books and films, and such.
Some people make it to where they are based on talent, but some people make it there based on other things they have done...
I don't think it's even just restricted to the entertainment industry. I've encountered this sort of behaviour at universities and colleges that i've attended, too. Guy or girl decides to sleep with teacher, and suddenly guy/girl are getting good grades, or getting prime assignments. And every semester teacher has a different guy/girl.
Is it a turn off? I guess it depends on what you're looking for.
You'll see this behaviour anywhere that there is a power structure of some sort, know what i mean? People who want to climb the ladder will sometimes use ANY means at their disposal to do so.
Heck, i was in a position where my mother was a teacher, and a notoriously HARD teacher, and once it was discovered that i was her son, suddenly i had about 3 or 4 of her students hitting on me hardcore. The obvious hope being that i would then put in a good word for them. I never took advantage of this, although in hindsight... I kinda wish i had.
Would i ever consider a long term relationship with this type of person? No i don't think so. But i'm sure they probably aren't looking for anything long term either, know what i mean?
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