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writes:ok when i first met my new girlfriend she dated a guy who lived pretty close 2 her and they had sex she told me she had a period after him (which i say is good means shes not pregnant) and we have sex 5 days before the end of march with a ripped comdom (i didn't notice) i didn't cum what so ever. i wasn't even close. why? because i was just to Nervous and it went an hour i stopped. and she didn't come on. now a month later we've had sex twice more and both times with no comdoms. she told me shes going to wait till monday to see if she comes on if not do test and see if shes pregnant or not. at first she was like " if i am i will not be able to handle this " but i'm gonna admit i wasn't nice about this i told her if she killed my child i wouldn't support her what so ever.why?we agreed to start for a baby after us being together 2 months. so i dont see the point in killing a life only 2 start 2 weeks later anyways. now ...... she seems happy she maybe pregnant its like in a space of 2 weeks her option on a baby as changed maybe she thought what does a month makeshe told me she comes on 4-5 days to the end of the month and today saturday is 3 days till the end of the month so i'm looking at this to be a sign to say she is pregnant.ok questions if she pregnanta) shes feeling sick is that normal after only a month?b) she says her jeans r getting tight can that happen after only 1 month? now i'm gonna admit to you my girlfriend is a bit on the chubby side so the jeans could be a sign of her putting on weight something i think she hates.is there a chance the baby is her ex boyfriends i'm only asking because i dnt wanna bring someone else baby up. if i wanted to bring someone else baby up i could get with my mate who is better looking and would move during sex.any help would be great
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reader, maverick +, writes (28 April 2007):
 Firstly I want to say I can empathise with your anxiety.
I can see from your question you are letting your thoughts runaway with you. You need to stop this as it will make thinking forwards difficult.
Right now you do not know any better. What you two should both do is wait until see is next due on her period and carry out a number of pregnancy tests. Aim to use at least 3 different brand home pregnancy test kits. If in doubt, visit you nearest NHS drop-in centre or GP.
As a note: my girl mates usually complain of feeling bloated when they are due - so tight fitting jeans is not a good indicator. Also, if your girlfirend is taking medication (some affect periods) or stressed for any reason (worrying about being pregnant is a good example) then this will likely have an effect on the timing of her period.
If she's not pregnant don't worry about it - but still read on (I've noticed something from your question).
If she is pregnant, then both of you need to come some agreement on what will happen next. Keep the baby? Adoption? Abortion?
At this point you should consider if you are still concerned about whether the child will be yours and when to raise this with her. Wou will also need to decide when you want to tell her your concerns. You should explain why you are feeling this way to her if you do. She may react badly, but ultimately you do need to explain HOW YOU ARE FEELING. You may wish to raise the possibility of paternity tests if the situation warrants it.
It could be a painful experience for both of you no matter what happens. From here everything is too far off in the furture to even guess. So just concentrate on the now.
By the way, I noticed you ended you question on a really interesting note.
"if i wanted to bring someone else baby up i could get with my mate who is better looking and would move during sex"
This sentence seems to show you have negative feelings towards your partner - regardless of the pregnacy predicament? You give the impression you are deeply unhappy with her - not just the pregnancy thing. It maybe worth sitting down together and talking about you two.
Just an after thought... Please take care.
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reader, beautifulllove  +, writes (28 April 2007):
 I think that she could be pregnate but at the same time she needs to do a test, you did how ever put your self in a situation where it's hard to tell she could be pregnate with her ex baby for the period she had could have been her last; so there is a 50% chance it's yours and a 50% chance it's he's so even if you toke a guess only a dna test will tell you for sure unless when she goes to the doctor and if she is in fact pregnate then they should be abled to tell you the day the baby was well pretty much made and if you slept with her and not her ex on that day or the day before than its yours but if it add's up with him, try an dna test for sure and even so whats so hard risen a child tht isn't yours? ok shes your gf and just be supportive she really needs it. but i hope i at least helped abit
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