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*m81690
writes:Is she on a date with her ex?Alright so yesterday I was with the girl I'm seeing and we were having a good time, but then later in the night her sister tells her that one of her ex-bf's wants her to go out tomorrow(today), she didnt give a straight yes or no, but the look on her face looked as if she wanted to. Then she said she wished there were more of her so she could go wiht us both.So when I was leaving last night I told her I would call her today... I called and she didn't answer (which is what she does to all her ex's whenever I'm with her)... Aside from that though she almost always answers the phone... I haven't been going with her long but I really like her though I have to admit she is enough to drive me nuts.What do you think?
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (25 August 2007):
jm81690 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I know I should tell her straight up... But I'm affraid if I do she'll choose ex-bf's over me. I've had other girl friends before but this is the only girl I've ever felt like this about, so I don't want to end it already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2007): Yeah she is probably out with him. Well at least you know what you are getting yourself into. If she is so special that you want to keep pursuing her even after knowing this, then, my suggestion is to play hard to get. Be the guy who doesn't call. I mean if she sees that you have self respect, she is going to want you above all the others. That's how it usually works.
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reader, Tray-Lou  +, writes (25 August 2007):
i think your girlfriend wants to have her cake and eat it but you need to remind her that she cant play with peoples feelings like this and there is nothing worse or more hurtful than not knowing where you stand when you really like someone you need to tell her to be straight with you and to make a decision on whether she wants to be with you or not and your not going to wait for her to go out with other guys and then pick, you need a straight yes or no and then you can move on with your life with or without her thats the least you deserve just ask her for the truth and whether she wants to be with you or not
good luck
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reader, skye +, writes (24 August 2007):
 I think your girlfriend doesnt know what she wants. She has told you that she would like to go out with both of you. You do not deserve someone who would contemplate going on a date with her ex behind your back.
I cant say whether she did go out with her ex or not. There are lots of reasons why she may not have been able to answer you. However, I think you should speak with her about this.
Tell her that you are an honest person who respects honesty from others, especially in your close relationships. Ask her if she is seeing her ex and to decide which one of you she most wants to be with. She cannot have two boyfriends. You deserve a faithful girl. You cannot keep wondering whether she is with another guy when is is not with you. You really would go nuts!
Decide realistically what you expect from your partner (respect, honesty, faithfulness, etc)and dont settle for anything less. Only you can make the decision whether you have a future with this girl or not.
Good luck,
Skye
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): Who knows, but if she's still dating other guys & it bothers you, tell her. If she won't stop, leave her.
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (24 August 2007):
jm81690 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah so i'm pretty possitive she's with him.
been ignoring my calls and msg's all day long.
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