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writes:Well I've dated this girl the last week or so, she started being quite forward texting me every day asking how's my day going and stuff, this was before we actually dated, which I found a bit forward but thought nothing of it. This girl also suffers from depression which she told me on the first date which wa a bit of a shock but it's not a big deal to me. The date itself was great, she admitted feeling very comfy with me an asked me at the end of the night if I wanted to see her again. She kept up the texting the next day and wanted to see me the day after this which I went along with. Also she told me she had told her friends and family about how great I was. Now this is where it gets strange whilst out with a friend, she seen her ex who she split with 9 months ago with the girl he cheated on her with and she went nuts, she told me this. Now the next date she is texting me all day saying that she's really looking forward to it but she didn't get much sleep so she's going to catch up on some. She later turns up at my house and proclaims that she's in a bad mood and told her dad to kiss her ass lol. Well we went out any way and she was clearly in some sort of a mood, at the end of the movie she apologised for not being her usual bubbly self and would I mind if she went home, so I just said no problem see you soon. We had a brief chat and kiss in her car, then she went. She texted apologising again which I replied to saying don't worry about it. We arranged to meet up later in the week which she said would be good. So I left it a few days then text her asking how she's doing and such and got a reply of I'm great just really tired, and that's all I've had since, she's great but really tired. No mention of going out from her at all, now on my birthday which was a few days later she sends me a message on a social networking site saying sorry it's late happy birthday, I've broken my phone. Now from this I thought oh well a polite she's no longer interested. I'm just wondering if she is not interested or playing hard to get, sorry it's such a long read but any input would be great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply's, really appreciate it, i forgot to add that the last time i txt her i asked her hows she doin, and if she wanted to do something again to which i got no reply, just a couple of days later though thats when she said happy bday and that she had broken her phone. So i kinda taken this as a loss of interest on her part.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): I agree with the previous answer...way too much texting! Also, when she text you that she was great, just really tired, that was your opportunity to ask her if she was too tired to go out.
If she truly does suffer from depression, it could just be her mood swings...which can be very difficult and out of her control, especially if she doesn't take medication.
I'm realizing from this website there are so many people who are afraid to ask these very important questions directly to the people they are involved with! You have the right to ask questions and really know the person you are dating or would like to date. That's how people really get to know eachother.
I learned that from my boyfriend (LDR) when we first started talking on the phone, but hadn't met yet...a few weeks into talking 4 hrs a night every night, he complained to me that I didn't ask questions and he felt I didn't care and wasn't that into him. (Nothing was further from the truth) I told him that I didn't want to pry and he said How the heck are you going to get to know me if you don't ask questions. from that time on, I haven't stopped asking questions! You won't know if you don't ask!! If you really like this girl, get to know her!
Good Luck!
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reader, Dream_Girl  +, writes (25 November 2008):
 I seriously have no idea. It could be her insecurities holding her back from you. She seems to have a lot of issues to deal with first and believe me you can't fix people, they have to fix themselves.Are you two exclusively dating? What's with so much texting? Are you two a pair of puppy love stricken teens?
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