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writes:Hi, I first found the love of my life close to 4 years ago, I know most people say they find love as a teen and you may not believe me but that's beside the point. After meeting her at school we grew extremely close, closer than i've been with anyone and eventually, inevitably, we admitted our feelings etc. got together and soon broke up, then I met someone else but ended up going back to her. We had our problems and broke up once again. Slowly became good mates again until i ruined it by telling her I think I still loved her. We stopped talking at that moment and, after being split up for almost 2 years and not talked for 18 months we've recently started talking. We've only had a few conversations but its just as it used to be and they were very intimate and deep conversations but then again we know each other very well and have a special relationship, always will, and its just like it used to be. While we never spoke I never stopped thinking about her and even when I was with other people or thought I liked other people I never asked them out because my feelings never compared to that of my love. We're again very close, giving me her mobile number, which I knew off by heart anyway. I've tried to forget her but cant and although we had our problems i'll never forget her and i'd take her back any day. I can't explain our special relationship, its like we've picked up where we left off and shes still the sweet girl I first fell for. However, I don't know if she's being friendly now or is she feeling the same. We're more mature now and she said she wanted to talk to me as I was special to her but again shes nice like that. I sound like a love sick puppy and I should really move on which i've tried just nobody compares to her. How do I know what to do, can you please help me. Despite knowing each other better than we know ourselves knowing her feelings is the only thing i've never worked out, I want her more and more everyday and if she feels the same which atm I doubt then how do I find that out. Basically she is nice cause she likes me or nice cause shes a real sweet girl. I could go on forever explaining how close we are and the ups and downs of our past we've done so much together its impossible not to be close. What do I do? Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): From wot u just said, u seem attached to her. Obviously she likes you, but you have to ascertain if itz that of mere friendship or of love. You have intimate conversations et al coz u've known each other for a long time. So u have to stop assuming and candidly ask her wot she feels for you. So you can know ur stand. If she reciprocates ur feelings, fine but if not move ahead, accept her mere friendship and find someone who loves u as much. You're worth it! and dont settle for less.
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reader, superbunny +, writes (11 September 2007):
 I think the reason you've got such strong feelings for her is because you have spent so much time together and there's been little room for anyone else inbetween all these feelings and what-ifs.You need to branch off, meet other girls, at first you may compare them all to her and she will always have a special place in your heart - your first love always will - but that doesn't mean you can't love someone else the way you love her. Everything's just got very intense.Take what she's doing as kindness and move on gradually.Hope things work out for the best - message me if you want to talk. :] x
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