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writes:I was in a long distance relationship for 11 months until my girlfriend decided to break up with me permanentely. I say permanentely because she has broken up with me before. She cheated on me, she lied to me, she hurt me like no one else has ever hurt me before.A month after the so called permanent breakup we started talking again due to some circumstances and she ended up telling me she loves me and she only broke up with me because she thought that if I hated her then she couldn't hurt me anymore.I don't know what to feel. I feel like I still love her, or a part of her but I can't trust her, no matter how hard I try. I'm afraid she's just using me not to be alone, like I feel she has done before.I don't know don't know what to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): well you're not a toy that she can play with and then put down when she gets bored, to hell with her!!! this girl doesn't love you, she doesn't even respect you!! Lots of women like the attention men give them and a lots of them don't really like the feeling of being alone.
Tell her straight up that you dont trust her and that maybe you wont ever trust her again. Tell her you've had it with her headgames. Don't tell her what she wants to hear. I was trhough the exact same thing. When it comes to relationships, gut feelings count for a lot and whenever you feel something isn't right, then 90% of the time they really aren't.good luck
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reader, MonicaC  +, writes (19 June 2009):
 I really understand where you're coming from on this one. I just got out of a long distance relationship with someone who cheated on me, lied to me and broke my heart. He still tells me he loves me in e-mails and text messages, but I just can't trust him anymore. He says it's over between he and the woman he cheated on me with. I don't believe that either. Anyway, this is not about me, so I'm sorry to lead off there.
My honest opinion is that you should not be involved with her anymore, sweetheart. She will only break your heart again, and the distance makes trust such a huge issue. If you can't trust her, it's hard to imagine making it work. I think you deserve someone who will treat you with love and respect and not just use you when she gets lonely.
xo
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