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writes:me and my girlfriend have been going out for a good while now, and we plan on getting married before we ever have sex, I'm a virgin and she says she's a virgin too, my penis is 5 1/2 inches long and she says that huge..but what if she's just saying that to make me feel better? and I tell her that if she is just trying to make me feel better that I can somehow make my penis bigger, and she usually starts crying because she says that scares her really badly, either I'm looking into this and analyzing this wayyy too much, or my feelings are telling me right and she does want it bigger, but not admitting it because she doesn't want to hurt my feelings...she usuallly sounds kinda fake when she says I have a huge penis..and when she starts "crying", it sounds like she's forcing herself to sound like she's really is, can someone give me their hones opinion please?..
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (24 January 2011):
 To a virgin, five and a half will seem big. Even for more experiences women, that size is very pleasurable and for some, bigger dicks might actually be difficult to take anyway.
She seems to love you for what you are. Count your blessings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): Your girlfriend is a virgin. She doesn't know what's big and what isn't. And, admittedly, you aren't 'big' but you aren't small. Your an average size, and it should be enough to please. Don't worry about your size, and I'm sure she's not lying. Accept yourself and stop worrying until you actually have sex. Enjoy your time with this girl.
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reader, mscard +, writes (23 January 2011):
Yeah, mate, I'll level with you -- she's absolutely saying it to make you feel better. But every girl in the history of the world who's ever commented on how big some dude's cock is said it just to make him feel good about himself. That's because girls first of all don't care about size and second of all know that guys make a huge deal out of it. Most women feel expected to say something like "you're so big" etc. In our culture, guys want women to be impressed with their size, and women are aware of this expectation so they try to fulfill it. The only time women really care about size is if your penis is on either end of the spectrum -- if you're tiny and they can't feel it or if you're way too big and it hurts. You're neither one of those; you're pretty much exactly average. So am I. Average is a good place to be, mate -- by definition, women have been satisfied by an average sized penis for thousands of years. You don't want to be tiny, and you don't want to be a mammoth, because women don't like either one of those.
I think the thing to realize is that women don't focus on body parts like men do. We love big boobs and a nice ass. Women don't really care that much about the penis itself. She's only commenting on it at all because she thinks you want her to. It's not that she thinks you're small -- she honestly doesn't have an opinion whatsoever because if it weren't for her thinking that you wanted to hear how big you were, she wouldn't even notice.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 Your insecurity is making you over analyze this, she's a virgin, its not like she's got anything to compare you to anyways. Just tell her to never tell you that you have a huge penis again and avoid the drama that you've created out of thin air.
When you have sex you'll figure out a few things that society has been cramming down our throats over the years are complete bull crap. Needing to have a 12 inch cock to be a man who can satisfy a woman in the bedroom is the first notion that you can chuck out the window mate.
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