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writes:I've been together with my friend for 6 weeks, quite soon after she came out of a longish term relationship. We spent the first few weeks taking things really slowly as she was worried I was just a rebound, but got closer and closer. She has said to her ex that she doesn't want to get back together at all with him as the same problems would come up again.Recently she's started getting on with he ex a bit better so they still speak and spend some time together as part of our large group of friends. Then last Sunday she said that she didn't feel ready for a relationship and that she didn't want to upset her ex by being in a relationship. But she said that we may well get back together when the times right, and definitely didn't rule us two being together out.Is she just being kind and not ending it bluntly, or do you think she just needs some time? We've chatted about it a bit but I don't want to push it as I don't want to upset her and ruin anything that may happen between us two.I don't want to get over her as she's the best thing that has ever happened to me. She's the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last thing as I go to sleep. But, more than anyhting I don't want her to be unhappy or upset, and so would rather try and move on if it is what is best for her.Thanks, x
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reader, kaylagal  +, writes (12 March 2009):
 She is confused. Give her time and let her figure out what she really wants, and pliz don't initiate too much contact during that time. Sounds like she never got over the ex. and also quickly got into a relationship with you.
All the best.
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