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writes:Ok... well... maybe someone could clear this up for me. Im going to try to cut this to the chase because im infamous for writing 1000+ word questions.Never could figure out when a girl was flirting with me, especially this one.She's very flirty and flirts with everyone, rather attractive, or atleast i think so. And very bubbly personality.When school was in i saw her just about daily, but usually never talked to her for more than 10 mins a day. We were never even 'great' friends. friends yes, id strike up a conversation every now and again, but nothing more.I havent really seen her for most of the summer since school let out, just recently today and a week ago at our towns 4th of july celebrations (even though todays the 11th)Now before i add anything further, our friendship did get better by the end of the year, of course thats how it always goes with me. Im always more popular at the end of the year, then when the next year starts im not as popular (still liked, dont get me wrong, but just at the beginning im not the guy everyone looks up to), due to the fact that i work for most of the summer and am not able to see too many friends.The 4th, she was excited to see me, we talked more than usual (first time i've seen her in nearly 2 mths) so i figured it was just catching up. we watched the fireworks, sat next to each other, the one thing that stuck out in my mind was she asked if i was dating anyone (no). But i still felt it was part of the catching up part. Ya know minimal bodily contact, just basically light contact on my arms and vice versa whenever the opportunity arose, but very flirty, she'll do this with most anybody.Another note here, i did ask her out about a year ago now, so theres still a little awkwardness (between me and her, not vice versa).i texted her occationally this week, she told me show up early to todays celebration as she was going to be dancing. i couldnt, had to work, but when i showed up, she was still excited to see me.she again had me sit by her, we talked a lot more but and overall enjoyed my time. She again asked me if i was dating anyone (still no), i reciprocated, she said no. She said she liked being single (really confused me. she doesnt go thorugh boyfriends at an alarming rate, but wasnt single for much of the year either). We sat together in a group and watched the group, 3 of her girl friends and 2 of my guy friends. She at times throughout the night asked me if i would ever date them, or liked them.Of course then the awkward moments which really emphasised my awkwardness around her:1) she (twice) told me to cuddle with her, twice all i did was let her set her head on my shoulder, mainly because the way i was sitting wouldnt let me move quick enough to get my arm around her AND because im not sure how far to take it because she has already told me she didnt want to be like that with me (albiet, a year ago)2) she told me her neck hurt and she had a headache she told me to massage her back, and i did so to the best of my ability, but i am no way good at that, as i have only been in one major relationship, am not very flirty around most people (yes i have my days where i'll flirt with anyone, but for the most part, im very quiet and just take everything in.)If any of this matters she talked with me more than anyone else, and was also practically sitting on me the whole time. Not quite, but enough where about half of her leg was on mine and i was resting my hand on her leg.Not to mention she also consulted me on how her hair looked.But i dont know. From what i've seen she is very flirty, but i havent seen her since school was out so she could also be just as flirty with me as with any of her other guy friends.In school i generally only talked to her around either her boyfriends, or what others jokingly refer to as her 2 gay friends (two of my better friends, but still, they do just about everything with each other, with no relationship attached. Or my best friend, who has a natural charm and most girls are like that around him. So im completely stuck.I still wouldnt mind dating her, although i dont really see it as a priorty, i dont mind being friends like this at all. But since i havent seen many people over the summer, theres no one really i have in mind either. At the same time, in public, she has been more flirty around me, yet has already told me (in the past) that she didnt like me like that.So just being herself or something more?all opinions are appreciated!Thanks. Sorry it was long… at least it wasnt over 1k =)Nick
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reader, xnickx +, writes (14 July 2009):
xnickx is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey thanks guys. Your oppinions have been much appreciated.
I think im just going to do what you guys suggested and stay friends, especially jc's yours helped a lot!
Thanks!
Nick
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reader, jc156 +, writes (13 July 2009):
well nick i know exactly how you feel i was in the same exact situation last year. I got really close to this girl during the school year. sometimes she flirted with and sometimes she acted like she just wanted to be friends. During the summer she constantly called me wanting to hangout but I couldnt make it most of the time because I was working,but when we did it seemed like she flirted with me alot more than in school. I didnt know what to do because i would rather be her friend then for her to feel awkward around me and not wanna hangout because i told her I liked her. So I chickened out and never said anything. We are still really good friends and talk at least once a week and i still kinda like her, but i have a girlfriend and she has a boyfriend now so we probaly wont ever date. Also they say that a girl makes up her mind about you in the first 7 min she meets you and her brain automatically puts you either in the possible frinds file or the possible lover file. But you never know what could happen in the future. Hope this helps somwhat Nick.
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reader, AndreC.  +, writes (12 July 2009):
 From experience this girl is what I call a tease and a girl that can really make you go crazy. Don't get to attached because then you will get hurt these aren't the kind of girls you want to be dating because she will drive you crazy and you will constantly be worried about what she is doing or who's she's with. You can choose to listen to me or not but I have fallen for a girl like this in my past. Stay friends with her and keep it at that just remember not to get to close and emotionally attached to her also don't be her pet and seem like you are enjoying everything and doing everything she wants you to do because this seems to fuel them. Just remember to NOT get to attached or else you are in for some heart ache.If you need any more advice feel free to message me.
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