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writes:well i have been texting this girl for a couple weeks now but i have only taken her out once. We go to the same university but don't see each other there because our schedules are different this semester. the problem is i am not sure if shes interested in me or is just giving me the run around. I am always the one who initiates our conversations, but she is very responsive to my texts and seems interested. But every time i try to take her out she agrees and seems excited but when the day comes she backs out (its usually work related) this has happened twice so far. im not sure if shes genuinely interested or just likes the attention she gets from me chasing her. has anyone else been in my shoes? if so how did you guys deal with the situation? Thanks, any comments would be greatly appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010): wow i have been in your shoes. and i talked to her about it, and she was nice enough to tell me the truth that she didn't want a relationship with me. i kept her as a friend because i loved talking to her. it sounds like the same is happening to you so just talk to her about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): i think you should try one more time. if she backs out again then forget about it. this guy i know used to ask me to hang out all the time and i would say yes and (i know this is terrible...) and i acted like i really wanted to spend time with him when i really did not want to. we were friend-ish but i always felt like he liked me a lot so i never wanted to hurt his feelings. after i would say yes, then i would txt back and say i couldn't make it or something and tell him we need to reschedule soon. i did this so many times that he just stopped txting/talking to me. i feel awful bc i should have been honest. but i am just giving you the girl's point of view. so maybe u should try one more time, but that's it.
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reader, Frankiexxx  +, writes (14 May 2010):
 listen its the stress dont back off just because off it ask her if yould like to do some work together or offer to help her thats just to get you started
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reader, Frankiexxx +, writes (14 May 2010):
well its probally the work that may stress her out and make her feel queezy. just dont give up yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): She doesn't sound like she is really all that interested..and there is nothing wrong with that. You both are very young, maybe she is interested in someone else or she just isn't that all caught up about relationships and dating. Don't keep asking her out, after you have done it a few times and she has bailed out on you, just take that as a queue that she isn't interested and move on. Besides, it wouldn't hurt if she contacted you first sometimes, but she should not be chasing after you or asking you out on dates. You should always be the man.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 May 2010):
I'd give her one more chance to come out. If she backs out again, then pull away. To be honest, she doesn't sound overly interested to me at all. Give her one more chance, then back away and she if she comes running.
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