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writes:my former girlfriend was raw with me in bed,she made me feel that no other woman can give me hot sex,now am married and cant find such satisfaction in my wife,yet i love her,what do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): this is a common situation; your wife seems conservative compared to your ex-gf; solution is not easy. if better sex is really important for you, pls divorce her rather than cheating. she won't change and neither will you. folks saying better communication are just swimming at the shore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): there is nothing wrong having a slut/whore in bed. have you tried teaching your wife. tell her what you like, what turns you on and also do to her what you would like her to do to you. also try bringing in some porn but don't be rude in the sense where porn replaces her.
i am also curious why you din't marry the slut like girlfriend. if she was so great and sooooooo raw what happened/ too much raw and not enough wifely attributes. (just pulling your leg)
TEACH HER, EDUCATE HER AND MAKE CERTAIN she ALSO ENJOYS HERSELF IN BED.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): Communication..tell her what you feel and what you want.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (15 May 2010):
 Im also really curious". Why you did not marry your former girlfriend???
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): I want to know the same thing.Why didn't you marry your former girlfriend?
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (14 May 2010):
 For a good sexual relationship, it takes TWO. Sure, on occasion there is a guy or girl out there that is really good, but 9 time out of 10 it takes time and experience. And when I say experience I don't mean just lots of sex. You have to be with your partner for a long time to get to know what they like and what they don't like.
The early stage of a relationship is always exciting because it's so new. The sex always seems great. But I'm willing to bet if you married your ex girlfriend you'd be in the same boat. You'd be here posting "Sex with my wife just isn't the same as it used to be. She used to be raw and passionate..."
Again, it takes 2. You are just as responsible for telling her what you want and what you like as she is telling you what she likes. Maybe you don't satisfy her as much as she could be. Maybe THAT would make her more excited.
As a guy, I'm going to tell you that you can't expect all of the blame to be on her and you can't expect her to do all of the work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): Why didn't you marry your ex-girlfriend if she was so great in bed? Did you love her? What happened? Was there cheating involved? You have some people that have great sexually chem. but outside the bedroom they don't have a strong liking towards each other. I hope you are not thinking about cheating on your wife with your ex or any other woman. Talk to her about it first.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (14 May 2010):
 I'm sorry really I am but DITTO to what Vintage and q165 said!
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (14 May 2010):
 This may seem obvious, but have you approached your wife about what you like, sexually speaking? I mean, if she doesn't know what kinds of things you like or the things that turn you on, you can't expect her to read your mind. Most times, it's just a matter of expressing your desires and needs. In addition, you might have to give her instructions or directions on the kind of sexual acts you like... but mostly, it's communication that needs to happen here.
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reader, mint  +, writes (14 May 2010):
 just be honest
tell her the truth...and try and spice things up with her
im sure it'll make an improvement
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): So why didn't you marry the former girlfriend?
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