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writes:So I have met this girl. I actually knew her before but we ran into each other and we were instantly attracted to one another. When i was checking my phone she grabbed it from me and put her number in it. So we started talking.I found that she had a boyfriend who treated her like crap and that she planned on dumping. She said she would have never asked for my number that night but she didnt know when she would see me again.So we both told one another that we like each other and it turns out that we have so much in common and have all the same interests. I find her the perfect fit for me. So she is still with her boyfriend and wont kiss me because she doesnt want to cheat until one day she finally caves in. But she still remains with him. She claims that he is going through a rough time right now and all he has is her, and she is worried he will hurt himself.She went with me to a wedding as my date. She got drunk and was dancing with everybody. Then this one guy that steals every decent girl a guy brings around; gets her number. He keeps trying to talk with her and she tells me there is nothing to worry about although she hasnt been as talkitive with me the past few days. This has all been going on for a month. What do I do about this?
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reader, karen1989  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Just like men women cheat and women LIE. You say that she doesnt want to leave him because she is worried he will hurt himself, if he really treats her that badly then she wouldnt care. She'd run a mile. Unless she still has feelings for him despite the way he treats her. To be honest judging by the information you've provided i don't think shes planning on leaving him for yourself any time soon. I think shes using you to distract her from the abuse,someone to keep her busy and entertained. Shes keeping you just incase things do finally end with the boyfriend then she has someone to fall back on so shes not alone. Judging by the way she acted at the wedding shes probably doing the same thing with a few other guys, keeping her options open in terms of men. You don't want to get involved with a woman like this. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): You know she had a boyfriend yet was willing to be EXTREMELY forward with you as to go and give you HER number.
If her boyfriend really treated her like crap, she should have ended THAT relationship first before persuing one with you.
And she actually got drunk and started dancing with other guys at a wedding YOU took her too? What more evidence do you need man?
She tells you not to worry about it and your response is, "Duhhh, ok."
I say you get what you need from her and kick her to the curve. That's probably what she wants anyway!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Hey, once a cheater - always a cheater! Call it quits before it's too late my friend. She'll hurt you more, don't get stuck in the mud. I can see that you are in love with this girl but be strong and cut all connections with her or if you can just stay friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): You are the "back -up" guy to her. She wants to have you around for when she and her bf break up.............is that fair to you or to him? I think NOT She is the type of girl who wants attention from all guys possibly because she has self esteem issues. Being drunk is not a good enough excuse for why she gave out her number to another guy while in a relationship AND whiloe she was there with YOU! Alcohol makes you less inhibited, perghaps a bit more flirty buit it does Not make it ok to act the way she did. She is not honest with her bf and is using you. If her bf really treats her like crap then she should dump him and get her life together and THEN look for another guy. If you respect yourself walk away fro her and tell her you don'ty feel comfortable with the current situation
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): I sorry to say forget her.. she is playing a game, if she like you that much she would not get another guy's number. and I don't beleive about the boyfriend. because if he was treating her bad she would of got rid and then if she did and went with you soon after she would probably be on the rebound and bring her emotional baggage with her. but from a woman's point of veiw she doesn't seem sincere. if she can do this to her boyfriend regardless how he treats her. you will have in back of our mind could she do this to you?
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reader, babyblueeyes +, writes (13 July 2010):
Hey there.
To be honest, you should tell her its over. You do not deserve to be treat like that. If she really cares for you then she will find the stregnth to end it with this guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): She's craving attention, and tapping into each guy only as deep as the need goes. The need aint deep with you son. Hate to tell ya. Ya gotta move on. You're not a well for her to tap. Selfish as hell in my book, and these tramps are a dime a dozen. Delete her number...better yet, grab her phone, and delete it from hers...then say you're going through a rough time right now and all you have is you.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (13 July 2010):
 The answer is as clear as day in that post of yours my friend.
She's a liar and a cheat. She may not do it on purpose, which is why she is so believable... but she is what she is.
Stay away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe is still with the boyfriend and she does not seem like the cheating kind. i have heard the way he verbally abuses her. she tells me that she is going to break up with him and i need to be patient. she still claims there is nothing going on with snake who steals girls, has sex with them, cheats on them, verbally abuses them, and dumps them.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 July 2010):
She cheated on one boyfriend who she claimed was treating her like crap. Yet there she was drunk, dancing with another guy and giving him her number. If she cheated on one, she'll cheat on another.
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