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writes:My girlfriend and I are at what I consider to be a crossroads in our relationship, either this is going all the way or it needs to end while we're young, we are both the same age, 25, and we just recently got back together after about a year apart after learning that we had both cheated on one another a few years back. My main concern is that she may be cheating on me again. I'm really not sure how to approach the subject with her considering our past, I know she loves me as we tell each other every chance we get, but recently she's become a bit secretive and a little withdrawn from our relationship, we don't live together but spend most weekends together with our daughter, the things that make me suspicious are what some may consider mundane or not note worthy but I still cant help but feel a little concerned, When she receives txt messages on her phone she quickly replies and deletes both the original txt and her reply, same with any message she gets on facebook or any other e-mail, now I dont consciously check any of her correspondence because I trust her, but if she leaves a page open I may take a peek. Lately our main way of staying in touch during the weeks is chatting online but she's been blowing me off a lot or telling me she's too busy to talk but still fooling around on the sites (proved by the wall posts from facebook while we were supposed to have been talking) I guess I have no real concrete evidence of any wrong doing but everyone always say to trust my gut instinct and it says that something is amiss, am I being paranoid because of what happened before or do I have an actual reason to be concerned? Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you for your time
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (5 May 2011):
Mate why are you still with this girl? You say she loves you but from all accounts it sounds like she is cheating on you behind your back.
You have to challenge her on this suspicious behaviour, but remember that she is likely to lie her way out of it. If you feel things don't match up then go with your gut feeling. Maybe this time learn a lesson and stay away from her, and move on with your life and find someone new.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (5 May 2011):
 Trust your gut instinct. Who seriously deletes all evidence of correspondence immediately unless either:
a) they've got something to hide
or
b) they've got something to hide.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (5 May 2011):
Trust your gut instinct. Who seriously deletes all evidence of correspondence immediately unless either:
a) they've got something to hide
or
b) they've got something to hide.
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reader, Aunty Susie +, writes (5 May 2011):
 It all sounds wrong, wrong, wrong to me. That you both cheated previously, not good at all. And now, you don't trust her. And it doesn't sound as though she is trustworthy. It doesn't appear to be a very healthy relationship at all. Just saying that you love each other all the time doesn't really mean much at all. I believe the only type relationship that you should be having with this women, is in parenting your daughter, and nothing more.
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