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writes:Okay, so.. I'm sixteen and in high school, but I'm mad shy around girls.. I used to be extremely big into lifting, but over the summer I broke my hand and then seperated my shoulder. I'm a little on the heavy side now, but honestelly not that bad, and I have some acne on my face. I get really self-conscience when I'm around girls that I think are good looking and I become quiet. I have no clue what to say to them, but when I finally do say something, Istart to think that they are asking themselves "Why is this kid talking to me?" Does anybody have any advice that has worked for you that may work for me?
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reader, Jen1689 +, writes (5 May 2011):
 First of all, being the "quiet kid" is a bad way to stick out in high school. It's definitely a good thing to stick out, so-to-speak, but do so on your own terms. Everyone in high school has acne, so don't feel alone in that, but if it's something that's really making you that self-conscious, go see a dermatologist. There's no shame in that. The best advice I can give is to just talk to every girl you see with no ulterior motives, and just know that if you're motivated by sexual urges, they WILL take notice and think that either: a) you're a cheeseball, or b) you're trying too hard. Just know beforehand that you're going to say stupid things sometimes (everyone does), but don't beat yourself up over it. That will ring confidence with the girls you speak to. Most importantly, have confidence, and that practice makes perfect. Only trying with the "hot" girls is guaranteed to knock down your confidence a bit, but talking with EVERY girl, hot or not, is just a good way to build social skills in general. Good luck.
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