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36-40,
*olidus
writes:I think my ex is seeing someone else but she won't tell me that she is and its really annoying me because our break wasn't supposed to be permanent just until she found a way to deal with her problems IE severe depression and alcoholism. She said we were best friends, but now she's giving me the cold shoulder and it hurts. We kept seeing each other and having sex until a few weeks ago then every time I tried to see her she'd give me a bogus excuse why she couldn't "I'm tired or busy, etc" but apparently had no trouble going out with girlfriends and going to the movies with a male "friend" whom she told me is just a dude she smokes weed with, but she's probably lying. she said us still having sex made it harder so I said we'd stop. however she still blows me off! Her friend says she hasn't heard about or seen any new guy, and that she thinks she's just going through something right now...but she could just be lying to me as well. I just get tired of her lying about it because I feel all the signs point to her seeing someone else. She turns me down to hang out repeatedly and when we happen to be together she showed me her new phone then snatched it outta my hand FAST after giving it to me! I feel because there were messages she didn't want me to see or something...I sent her a long message asking her what the deal was and telling her how hurt and insulted she makes me feel when I ask her to hang out and she blatantly lies to me for why she cant and after 6 days no reply. So i saw her online on facebook then she mysteriously logged off I sent another message saying how I knew she was online and got my message and asked if she was hiding now she replied "Im aware that you probably saw me online. I just want some space right now....i think its best. We'll talk soon and i would appreciate it if you would just let me be for now."Do you guys think she's seeing someone else and blowing me off to start something with this other dude?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 You no what i dont no how people can be so cruel, but i guess somewere down the line we all change, and possibly she is trying to save your feelings by not being honest with you yet she is just making it more painful and probably doesnt even realise.
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reader, Solidus +, writes (1 October 2010):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the question You know what I don't understand? Is that how could someone be so cruel turning a cold shoulder to someone who has loved and shared so much with them for the better part of a year. I'm talking about rushing over to her house at 3am the night her dad died and holding her in my arms all night while she cried.
That a person I loved so deeply could so callously disregard my feelings seriously insults me and hurts my feelings. It makes me question the validity of relationships and love altogether.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (1 October 2010):
Its hard to tell, but hun if you keep contacting her you are just going to push her away from you completely, i agree that it is totally unfair the way she is treating you at the minute, she should just be honest with you and i no this must be so hard but you need to try and forget about her, meet up with your friends and do things that you enjoy and make you feel good about yourself. Try and forget all about her i know its hard i really do but its for the best. goodluck
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