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writes:im 13 and im not a virgin. ive had sex a couple times. i had anal sex with this guy but it only lasted like 3 min. and it didnt feel good at all. i had sex with this other guy where i was on top but i couldnt get his penis to go in though. is my vagina hole too small to have sex or was i just putting it in the wrong direction or something. the first time ive had sex i didnt feel anything at all. was his penis just really small or was it not in lol idk. but every time ive had sex i noticed that the further the penis goes in it hits something inside that really hurts. i have bled after intercourse before but idk if my cherry is poped or not. and is sex supposed to hurt every time.??
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): Ur 13? U should not be having sex at 13 first and formost. And u should probably talk to a doctor if it hurts so much. Then again it might just be because ur body is just nit ready for sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): Of course it hurt you're 13! Sex should happen only when you're ready and no sooner! I'm 14 and know that I want to wait until I'm in a responsible loving relationship before I have sex. 13 is way too young-what if you became pregnant? Not to mention all of the different diseases that you can catch. You and your boyfriend should only have sex when you trust and love each other and know what you're going to do if you become pregnant because birth control doesn't always work. You should wait until you're physically and emotionally ready otherwise it won't be enjoyable. It should be an expression of love and devotion that you and your boyfriend have for each other. I know for a fact that nobody who is below the age of 16 is even close to mature enough to be in a relationship that is responsible and mature enough for sex.
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reader, Sharly48625 +, writes (18 July 2010):
 umm...You are in middle school. What the heck are you thinkning? Sex? Anal? I think you should stop doing it. You are still growing. I am the same age as you and I have masturbated a few times but sex is out of the question! Do your parents know?
k_c_100 said a lot of things you should pay attention to.
I know that people are doing it at a younger ages like 15, but you are still growing and you need to consider the fact that you can get STDs and pregnant. Which brings innocent lives to the problem if you don't abort. You are barely out of childhood?
I think you should rethink this terrible choice you're making and how it effects you, your parents, friends, and your life.
I don't mean to lecture because I know, its annoying.
I hope the people who replied to this gave you things to rethink.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): No sex shouldn't hurt every time. The reason it's hurting for you is because you're only 13 years of age and your body is still developing.
There's a legal age on sex for a reason, that's when you've developed properly and your body is ready for sex. Also in a lot of cases, mentally ready. Which is what you're not as you SHOULD know anal sex isn't going to be comfortable, like you should know sex will hurt at your age as your vagina is still growing. Which is why you've bled as your vagina is very tight.
I can't believe anal sex has even crossed your mind at your age. Did a guy talk you into this? or worse, forced? Anal sex can be VERY painful and I cannot even imagine the pain of it from a 13 year old.
You need to stop doing this. You're degrading yourself at such a young age.
The only thing I can suggest is for you to stop having sex until you are LEGAL, then it will stop hurting. You need to stop sleeping around too, you're going to get a terrible name and I'm sure your parents wont be very proud if they find out what you're doing. If you do carry on, remember to always use protection!! Don't let a guy tell you what to do/force you into anything, ever.
Also, wait until you find someone who actually loves you to have sex with. Sex is in fact meant to be a special thing, what you're doing is nothing of the sort. Don't spoil your young youth. You will regret it as you get older, believe me. Find other ways to enjoy your self. Maybe hang/play out with your friends like normal 13 years old's?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (15 July 2010):
 k c100 gave excellent advice. I'm just going to plead with you to stop. You are way too young for these kind of concerns. The road you're on is an ugly one. I've seen the girls who do what you are, and they end up used, abused, and worn out by the end of high school. Not to mention pregnant. Again, please wait until you're older to have any more sex.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (15 July 2010):
 It won't the only thing that hurts if you're really carrying on this way. k_c_100 says a lot of very sensible things. Please pay heed to them.
I only started at 15 and I didn't do anything particularly crazy (like anal) until I was 18. Not because I was a prude, but because I wanted to do it when I was ready and because I felt I might enjoy it. (I didn't particularly enjoy anal, still don't).
To answer your question directly, yes at your age penetrative sex will invariably hurt. There is often a little pain involved with penetration even once you're older.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (15 July 2010):
 Well I guess you clearly never thought of this before you started sleeping around but there is a reason you should not have sex underage - not only are you likely to be taken advantage of by older men but also your body is not ready for sex as you have not developed fully yet - therefore the chances are yes sex will hurt every single time until you are old enough and developed fully.
And I cannot believe at 13 (or even younger if you have been sexually active for a while) that you have tried anal sex - anal sex is painful for most adults never mind a child thinking it is a good idea! Why do you let these guys do this to you? Why do you feel the need to act like a grown-up and have sex with multiple partners all before you have even turned 16?
Basically I think you should really stop having sex and maybe try again once you are legal, sex will continue to hurt you until your body is ready for it. And sex should be something that is special, something that you enjoy and makes you feel closer as a couple. Not something where you are trying to do every sexual act in the book before the age of 14 just because you think it is cool!
Make sure you are always using condoms and birth control if you are silly enough to carry on acting like this - if you are having sex with a number of different guys the chances are you will end up with an STD if you do not use condoms. And surely at 13 you dont want a baby?
You really need to realise the health implications of having so much sex so young - HPV is a virus that is transmitted sexually, and this is the virus that causes cervical cancer. Numerous medical studies have shown that your chances of getting cervical cancer drastically increases the younger you start having sex - so basically they have found that if you sleep around regularly when you are under the age of 16 you are almost going to be certain to get cervical cancer.
It sounds to me like you are growing up way too fast and just need to slow down, enjoy your childhood, enjoy being a teenager and learn that sex is special, not just something to do with any guy that wants you. You are worth more than that - so please if you have any sense stop having sex now and let your body grow into an adults body, then sort out some contraception and only then should you be thinking about sex.
If you are mature enough to be having sex then you will be mature enough to take responsibility for your health and your future - so do the right thing and take control of the situation before you do some permanent damage to yourself.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, conswalo wasabi +, writes (15 July 2010):
however maybe as you are both only young he don't know what doing. you should either wait till you're older however you're not going to do that so educate yourself buy a book or two
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reader, conswalo wasabi +, writes (15 July 2010):
you might still be developing as your only a child
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