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writes:I'm away in a different country for 3 months (my bf and i have been together for 2 years). We talked about how important communication is, so we are writing each other messages almost every day. However when we can skype (once a week) then it seems like most of the time we run out of things to say quickly because we've written about it all week so we're already up to date about what the other is doing (such as daily activities, movies, future plans, food). i'm getting homesick (i know that he misses me too) and so tried to call him on skype but he refused it and is not answering my messages. he just sent me a message saying he doesnt know what to talk about, and now he's not replying to my messages. is this normal for this lack of communication to happen on long distance? i have only been gone 1 month, i feel this is happening too soon.
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (6 December 2012):
Fantastic! Great to hear that things are ok at the moment. Ive only got one week to go them home!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionironman, thanks so much for your tips! i started to apply them, especially about not going into details in messages and it's working! But now i'm so impatient for our next skype to be able to catch up haha. i thought that 3 months would be nothing and would go by quick but it's much more difficult then i thought.
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reader, ironman777 +, writes (2 December 2012):
Hi,Im in the same situation as you, Ive been away 2 months and will be coming home in two weeks, thank goodness!! My partner and I talk frequently and yes you end up basically talking about news... what I have done etc. What you are experiencing is totally normal.I think there are some ways to make communications more interesting. 1 - only email what your doing in a broad sense to your partner. Then when you catch up on skype you csn fill him in on the detailed stuff and how it made you feel.2 - During skype time ask him specific relationship based questions - bring intimacy into your conversations. Its not as good as being there but it maintains the relationship for a time.3 - spend time planning a future event together when you get back. this will give you both a project to work on.Some people cant handle LDR's either - if it looks like the relationship is really suffering - consider coming home for a short while. People are more important than money or things.Good luck with the next two months!!
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