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writes:My boyfriend blocked me both on facebook and whatsapp after he claimed that he need time to make-up his mind on wheretheir he wants me or his EX in June. Now in August he unblocked me and never initiates conversation? What is the meaning of blocking and unlocking me? It is really Over? Does he needs me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2015): You say what? If some jerk blocked me while he made some decision on who he loves the best, he wouldn't hear from me again. I'd settle the competition by self-elimination, and I'd go about my life. Ex wins by default. I don't compete for nobody!!! How could you allow him to put you in such a subservient position? Waiting to be judged as the winner, or first runner-up to his ex?
Did you break him and his ex up to begin with?
He's not initiating any conversation; because he's in the process of wooing his ex back, and just using you for leverage. He's playing you both against each other. "Well, if you won't take me back, I've got a spare waiting. Look how desperate she is to get me back. She won't leave me alone. Look at all those messages, but I didn't answer one!"
Girlfriend, have some dignity. He's the man in the middle and he has already blocked you mentally. He's made his choice. You'll do in a pinch. Someone to run back to when they're fighting. A convenient piece on the side.
My advice? Make it be over. Fighting over a man who'd treat you like that is beneath you as a woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2015): hi. He needed space to see if he wanted you or his ex? how did that ever come about? how long were you together and how long was he with his ex/split from her before being with you?
I ask this because, to be frank, if a guy isn't sure if he wanted to be with me or his ex I would end the relationship.
He either isn't ready to move on from his ex, doesn't want to or isn't that into you and was trying to do it nicely whilst leaving his options open.
whatever way you look at it, get something better for yourself hun.
All the Blocking/unblocking is nonsense. Two months of waiting around while he decides....If you feel strong enough, block him and keep it that way. show him you aren't waiting around and he's blown it.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 August 2015):
 I would presume it's OVER. Why he unblocked you is anybody's guess... maybe he wanted to make sure YOU didn't move on... in case the ex doesn't pan out.
So if I were you, I'd block, delete, unfriend him as he is NOT your friend, nor does he seem to want anything to do with you. Pointless in keeping him on your Facebook.
Let him go, move on. Find someone who wants YOU... not act like a kid in a candy story and go "Eeny, meeny, miny, moe" who do I want? The ex or this one?
Want MORE for yourself. You deserve a guy's UNDIVIDED attention.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (15 August 2015):
Whether he says it’s over or not, I think you need to face up to the fact that you don’t work as a couple and walk away. If he resorts to blocking and unblocking without explanation, and you panic that it’s over, it suggests that your relationship isn’t working, that it lacks a functional degree of communication and it’s best to wish each other well and move on.
I wish you all the very best.
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