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*onfused1985
writes:Hi,I'm a 23yo male who has just started dating a 16yo female.We both really like each other and she isn't bothered about the age gap so is it ok??? Reply to this Question
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): as long as its not a teacher-pupil relationship then its not THAT wrong but it may be difficult xx goodluck
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reader, xXx*BabyGurl*xXx +, writes (28 July 2008):
I'm 18 and i'm in a serious relationship with a 25 year old so that 7 years difference like yourself. In england the age of consent is 16 so you'd be doing nothing wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): If the feelings are still there when she's legal, then go for it. Until then, STAY AWAY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): Hi Mr Confused,
I answered on your last post, and now I know what's wrong and why you want to go slow. Forget what I said, I thought she was older. You have to stay in the driving seat, your the adult, you got to make sure you get the timing right. Here's a couple of posts that might help, unfortunately the girls were underage. But the advice is usefull about how to slow down a young girl who wants to have sex, even if she is the legal age for consent.
Take things slowly, kissing, carressing, foreplay... drag it out as long as you can. Take her on trips and keep outside of the bedroom. Unfortunately young girls are determined, so she'll probably seduce you one day. Keep condoms with you at all times to keep her safe. Give her lots of kisses, and tell you she means the world to you, but your an adult man and you've never dated such a young girl. Good luck to you, if I was her parent, I would be glad that she found such a loving boyfriend, no matter his age.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-boyfriend-always-backs-off-when-we-are.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/shall-i-wait-to-have-sex-with-her.html
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reader, Confused1985 +, writes (24 July 2008):
Confused1985 is verified as being by the original poster of the question No I'm not planning on having sex with her in the near future but she seems like she does want to sooner rather than later!
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reader, Kim Shaddix  +, writes (22 July 2008):
 I don't think age is such a big deal, if u both truly love each other, you shouldn't worry about that
Are you thinking of having sex with her or something?
xoxo
Kim
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reader, XxAnGelXxx +, writes (22 July 2008):
 And to the anonymous person who said that this guy'll go to jail, be on the sex offenders register n whatever else, in england its legal at 16!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): I've just started going out with a 23 year old and im 16 lol and we get on great, we always have the best of times together n its wonderful! Lol the age gap doesnt mean anything to us, its legal so its all good! Lol after all age is just a number :)
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (22 July 2008):
 16 is the age of consent here in the UK so it isn't illegal if you slept with her. Relationship wise there is nothing wrong with this at all. If you get on with her and have things in common than nothing should stop you two having a decent respectful adult relationship. As for her parents, if they can deal with it than that is a major plus.
If everything is cool there is no need to worry and just go with the flow and be happy with her as i am sure she is with you if she has gone so far as informed her parents. You are not hiding so no guilty feelings needed there either.
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reader, Confused1985 +, writes (21 July 2008):
Confused1985 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I think it's just nerves because we are getting on so well and I just don't want anything to go wrong lol
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reader, kenny +, writes (21 July 2008):
 At the end of the day age is only a number, how a couple feel about one another far supersedes how many numbers come between them. If you are both totally fine with this age gap then there is no reason why it should not work. Ok so the age gap sounds big at the moment because she is 16, but when she is 20 and you are 27 it won't even be noticable.
Go for it, and good luck
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (21 July 2008):
 Then there's nothing stopping you :) Go for it :D
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reader, Confused1985 +, writes (21 July 2008):
Confused1985 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe told her parents and they are totally fine about it.
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reader, bubbloo24 +, writes (21 July 2008):
If it isn't a problem, don't make it a problem.
If you're both happy then go for it, but you might wanna get her to have a talk with her parents about it first.
Age is only a number.
If you act maturely about this there shouldn't be a problem.
Best of luck
xx
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