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writes: Hi, I'm 13 and my step cousin is 15,and I think i fancy her.Ok, shes family (in a way) but I'm attracted to her and take pictures of her on my mobile saying i'm texting.I've even sneaked into her room when she was out and saw a bra on her bed and felt bad for sneaking in there ut happy.Is this a weird thing or is it normal for some people to do this?Please could you give me help and it'll be much appreciated.Thank You!
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 Proud of ya, have a good future, n' be happy!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to say a big thank you to everyone for there help. I've deleted the pics and now i understand that I shouldn't go into her room and find a girl my own age.Thank You!
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (23 August 2006):
 Hi there, I think it is normal to develop these sort of feelings at the age of 13. You may be feeling this way torward your step cousin because she is older than you and you probably spend a lot of time around her. I think that maybe you should not sneak into her bedroom as it is her private space and you wouldn't like it if someone was sneaking around your room. Maybe you should try and focus on another girl maybe someone from your school, someone who is better suited to you. This will take your mind off of your step cousin. Any way good luck
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reader, snowbird +, writes (23 August 2006):
This is creepy behaviour and you know it is wrong. You are invading her privacy and that is not fair to her. Imagine how she would feel if she found out. Nothing would ever be the same. Get rid of the pictures and learn some self-control. You are young and have hormones flying all over the place, so I am not saying you are a bad person - you are not, if you were, you would not care enough to write in for help.. But you need to nip this behaviour in the bud right now, and find other things to throw yourself into, maybe sports or a hobby or club. Channel all this energy into something absorbing and healthy, and your crush can be put on a back burner - in time it will fade, and no-one needs to be any the wiser.
But a word of warning - if you keep this up, and anyone finds out about your behaviour, you will have a reputation for being dishonest, even a bit weird, so please try to control yourself. If you really can't, then perhaps have a word with your mum or some other trusted adult about getting some help with your feelings. You don't have to tell everything, just say you may have a bit of a crush on her and you are having a bit of a hard time dealing with this on your own.
Take care, I hope you get yourself sorted. It's not the end of the world, and you are not the only one to have felt this way. You will grow out of it in time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2006): Hmm. At 13, I think it could be normal. I admire your honesty! Actually I barely remember how intense all those sexual hormones felt at that age, but I have a general picture. Make sure you don't take it too far - maybe sneaking in to her room is a bit too much. If you get caught, it'll stay with you forever!As long as you don't set up a website www.mysexycousin.com and sell the pictures and her underwear then I think you may be fine. Good luck on that long and exciting adventure to adulthood!
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reader, sugersweet02 +, writes (23 August 2006):
 well if you have a crush on her you cant help sneaking around her and stuff but going into her room is abit private and shes a girl so she has loads of "girl" stuff in there you might of seen which boys shouldnt its ok having a crush but that all it will be as she is family kind of so she wont feel the same way just be careful put your pictures of her in a folder only you know incase any1 seez em or you will be in troouble and she might find out best of luck xox
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