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writes:My boyfriend has recently informed me that someone I know is the person who gave him an STD 10 years ago. I have to see this girl all the time and it kills me. He doesn't know whether or not she knew she had it at the time but he ended up with it anyway. I'm mad at him too for being so stupid and not using a condom.Anyway, he never went mad at her or even really reacted. I feel angry because of this; she deserves to be told what she has done to him, doesn't she? I would never do that, but I want him to have some emotion about it. Basically, we can't have unprotected sex and it bugs me that she pleasured him more than me, because obviously they didn't use anything. Am I in too deep with this guy? Should I leave him? I really can't handle all this! Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2006): What?
10 years ago? The way, way, way past? I can see if you were with him at the time and all this time and that it happened RECENTLY...that you would be hurting over this.
Stop feeding that insignificant, wonder if this will hurt, wonder if I can get this to destroy the good things I have, rule your good judgement.
It was 10 YEARS AGO!!
So you know she was an irresponsible STD carrier...just be glad it's not you walking around; she would be ashamed if she knew.
LET IT GO.
LOVE THE GUY.
NOT EVERYONE HAS SOMEONE TO LOVE AND BE LOVED BY.
BE HAPPY!!
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reader, Nay920 +, writes (23 August 2006):
if you really love him you would stay with him and not let that bug you but if you feel as though its to much to handle than maybe its bettter off you to being friends because if you ever want to settle dowm with him you cant have any kids by him but if you love him than you would stay with him Hope this helps
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reader, lucyloo135 +, writes (23 August 2006):
 hi huni to be honest with you i would probably be bugged by this too you need to discuss this with your boyfriend your relationship has nothing unless you have trust but if you love him then you need to understand his situation and not be jelous because she was able to pleasure him more hes with you now and not her so she should envy you more for that hope this helps xxx
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (23 August 2006):
 Hi there, Maybe your boyfriend isn't reacting because whats done is done. There is no way that he can change it. I think that he just wants to live his life as normal as possible and to do this he probably wants to ignore this woman as it is a horrible memory. I also respect him for using a condom with you, as it shows he respects you. It is very hard on your boyfriend and I am sure he feels terrible. Support him. Don't go gunning for this woman, remember someone past it to her aswell and I am sure that she never knew she had an STD when she slept with your boyfriend 10 years ago. I hope everything works out with you and your boyfriend, take care
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reader, uonlyliveonce +, writes (23 August 2006):
 you need to tell your boyfriend how you feel about it.i can see how its hard to deal with but feeling angry over something that hapened in the past is pointless whats done is done theres nothing you can say to change it.and do you feel insecure because you think she pleasured him more than you? obviusly she didnt because know he can never receive that kind of pleasure again so in the long run she's caused him more hassle than anything.and your mad at him for not using a condom with her yet your pissed off becuse now YOU cant have unprotected sex with him??life sucks sumtimes and these things happen its hard but be the better person and learn to live with it, your not the only one loads of couples will have to deal with it everyday. a relationship isnt just about sex and you seem to be focusing on this too much. if you think anything of him stay with him.if its all about sex for you then leave him coz it'll never work.
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