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writes:Is my relationship over?My girlfriend of 10 years has gone away for a few days to spend time with friends and family.Since she left I've had unexpected feelings.For the first few days I felt a sense of relief, and really enjoyed having our home to myself.After 3 days, this feeling has not gone - and I'm not sure how keen I am for her to come back!Do you think this might be a sign that our relationship might be coming to an end? A friend of mine once said that if you don't miss your partner when you're apart, it's a sign that things might not be right.My girlfriend does have personal problems, and I do get dragged down by them sometimes - perhaps it's just a well needed break.Thanks in advance for any advice! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): you just needed a break hun. she probably felt the same. i agree with beentheredoneit, do something romantic for her when she comes back and when you see her smile then you'll know you're glad to have her back
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reader, penta  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 I think we can all use a break. Some of us just need some individual time -- and it's entirely probable that this is the case for you.
When I leave for business, it takes about a week before I miss the husband. But I do miss him.
Give yourself a chance. I don't think your relationship is over unless you decide you want to make this break permanent. That's up to you. Don't do this prematurely. Enjoy your individual time.
And in the future, schedule some more alone time. Sounds like you need to rest, on occasion, and there's nothing wrong with an occasional retreat.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Hi there babes,
If your girlfriend has got personal problems and you have been her rock through all of this I would just say its a case of you relaxing hun, with no worries or problems to deal with....you need a break too, this doesn't mean that you don't love or care about her any more....
You have been together for 10 yearws and that shows something babes doesn't it????
She obviously needed the break for her own reasons so use the time now to do what you enjoy and don't worry when she comes back get her a big bunch of flowers give her a big hug and I'm sure you will be perfectly fine....
Take care
Love Donna xx
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