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writes:I have only been married for eight weeks, and for the last five weeks i have been going out of my mind with worry, my husband works away from home, and we only see each other every three to four weeks for a day or two at a time, however, i received a phone call from a woman, telling me that my hubby lived and worked down where she lives, i phoned my hubby bout this and he was well supposedly a little angry, and yet he never made any attempt to come home and see how i was, in fact he never really phoned me much over that coming week, iv been of the opinion that the reason he never contacted me much was because he was having to sweet talk this other woman, with his lies.When he did eventually come home, some three weeks later, he said it was all lies, but im just not convinced, now xmas has just passed and he has had to go back down to london for work today, to start back the moro, he bought me a beautiful watch, which i was told was bought in london, i found the receipt and it was in fact bought near to where his mother lives, could be a coincidence, maybe his sister bought it as she was buying his mothers gift for him.To make matters worse i have actually never met any of his family and we have been together for two years.am i crazy..... Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (28 December 2008):
 You are welcome hon and I am glad you know what is going on. Now you can begin to move on with your life and begin to heal. I know right now you may not feel like it but I hope you can Put on your favorite party dress and fix yourself up, go out on the town and mingle! It will give you a new outlook and lift your spirits. You have to find strenght in yourself, by GOD'S GRACE. Go CELEBRATE your freedom. Not of being alone hon but of having FREEDOM from the pain and hardships you have suffered from being neglected and mistreated by someone YOU LOVED....It's not likely he can love anyone truely but himself. Tis such a shame.
MY BEST TO YOU in the NEW YEAR from MY HOUSE TO YOURS. CELEBRATE YOUR NEW BEGINNING!
God Bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, morag36 +, writes (28 December 2008):
morag36 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni would like to thank all of you who took the time, to answer my question.
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reader, morag36 +, writes (28 December 2008):
morag36 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI decided to end my eight week marriage, on 28/12/08, as i just didnt trust my husband, the final straw was that he told me that he was working 300 miles away right up until xmas eve, yet a gift he bought for me, the stupid idiot left the receipt in the box, said that it was bought on the 23/12/08, not far from where his mother lives, when i approached him with this, he finally confessed that he was in fact living and working in another area of scotland, to make matters worse he was actually married to this other lady, so i have in fact been married to a bigamist.
Im so glad that i stuck with my gut instinct and knew that there was something very very very wrong.
At the moment the police have been contacted and he has been charged with bigamy, what a silly silly man to have wasted two years of my life, but i feel sorry for the other lass that he is married to.
I see this as a good start to the new year for myself, however a little saddened by it all to
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (26 December 2008):
From the sounds of things something could be wrong. Your imagination at this point is probably going to get the better of you. Of course my imagination is wondering why after two years he has never introduced you to his family and now you are married to him. It could be cause for concern but if he has been constantly commuting the entire time you were dating perhaps it's just been too hard to manage the introduction. I yet would think that he would have made some attempt however.
The woman who called could have been anyone, she may have been attempting to break up your marraige or warn you in some way. She may be a mistress, another wife or someone else who thinks you should know what he's up to. Whatever that may be. It's hard to know for sure since you aren't with him often. My guesses would be along the same lines as yours. His anger could have been because he was caught! You have to consider that if he has nothing to hide and you questioned his might view this as jealousy and lack of trust in him. Right now you are seeing RED FLAGS waving! They may be just yet again it could be your imagination.
I have a bad feeling that not introducing to his family along with a call from a strange woman and things concering the watch that it's possible he may be covering up something. Watch for any other signs and be careful what you say and do. You can't let him know that you are keeping a watchful eye on this situation. Most of the time when someone is given enough rope they will generally hang themselves.
Make preperations for yourself in case things get worse or if in fact you find out he's been lying to you all along.Set money aside to get another place if you need to. Your vows are important but if he's out doing wrong it could be hard to convience him to abandon his ways and settle down. If there is someone else, you need stability, your heart is already out on a limb. Don't let it get broken beyound repair. Keep your senses and be Strong.
During your accessment of this situation look at things from every angle. Pay close attention to body language, facial expressions, veral discussions, time he spends away from home without contact or with him distancing himself from conversations or presence. Hopefull all of these things can help you to figure out just exactally what is going on.
Try to bring up in the next few weeks about taking a little mini-vacation(2-3) days in attempt to go meet his family. Tell him you love him and want to meet his family. Don't let onas to why. Simply express that you would love to meet them and get to know them. After all you married into the family. 8-) Don't buy into game playing just try to be geniune and try finding some answers that will ease your mind.
I hope that you can find someting that will put this all to rest and that things are just strained because he has to be away so much. Hopefully the woman is just a busy body who has some grude against him and that his sister or Mom did shop for the watch. At any rate if you begin to realize that it's all a big misunderstanding, forgive yourself and move past it. If he has made a mistake you can try forgiving him and do your best to move past that.
For now all you can do is wait it out and the decison on how long you wait is entirely up to you.
I wish you my best and Pray that the New Year brings you all the happiness and joy you so richly deserve.
God Bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, morag36 +, writes (26 December 2008):
morag36 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have been together for two years, and we had been together all the time until May of this year, when his mother had a so called stroke, i am ashamed to say that i dont even know if she did or not. He is 52 and i am 36, and i have known him for over ten years, due to the current work climate he has only been able to find work, about a hundred miles away, but the firm that he works for does work all over the country, hence the reason that i dont see him much.
He swears blind that nothing is going on, but there is just something just not right, i think i probably know the answer to my problem, but i guess that i want someone to tell me that i am wrong.
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