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writes:my ex fiance contacted me this year -he told me he got married-we'd had a bad split -mutual but i always just wanted to clear the air so i did and we emailed a couple of times but i noticed he was answering the emails early in the morning and would only reply when he wanted to-i didnt feel comfortable so just told him i was sorry for everything and wished him well for his future etc and to forget me.now last night-4 months later i get a email from him raking up what we spoke about 4 months earlier and saying things like he doesnt want to forget me-how can he i was a big part of his life blah blah-i never responded.why is he doing this-to play mind games ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): thanx guys your advice is superior xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): Hiya, your ex moved on enough to get married and it seems to me that he has now become setttled into his marriage, honeymoon period over so he is reminising about you. I think that he is contacting you now because he wants to know that he is still attractive to other woman and can still get the attention.You and him said your piece, you feel the end of the relationship was bad so you wanted to make your piece. However it seems that you became aware of when he seemed to respond to you and the conclusion you drew up was that he contacted you only in the morning. I think you would be best to leave it now and end all contact as this confusion to his behaviour will only carry on. He has moved on, happy or not he has made his bed so let him lie in it. Draw that line under the sand now and move forward in your life, best of luck!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (15 December 2009):
 Change your email account and forget all about him! It sounds like he is playing games - maybe he has gotten a bit bored with married life and wants to reminisce about old times?!
Regardless of what this man is trying to do - it is only going to end up badly and the chances are you will be the one that gets hurt. If the break up was bad then there is no real need to stay friends, you dont even sound like you really want him in your life either. So the best thing all round is just to cut contact with him and dont allow him any means of contacting you. So if he has your email address, close that account and open a new one under a new name. If he has your phone number - change it or get your mobile phone service provider to block his phone number. If he has your facebook or myspace - delete him off there and block him. Once you cut him out completely he will get the picture that you dont want him in your life anymore and he will go back to his wife.
Men like this just cant let go of the past - he is probably the type that wants to keep a few other women in his life hanging around just in case something goes wrong with his marriage. He is a waste of time and you shouldnt even worry about why he is behaving like this - just get him out of your life and move on, he is not worth a minute of your time!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (15 December 2009):
 Why are you letting him?
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