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writes:my bf broke up with me about 1 1/2 months ago, we talked here and there since then because I had hard time letting go. Few days ago we talked again, his phone kept dying and he was acting kind of unusual because he was trying hard to call me back a lot of times to tell me his phone died, then he finally went home to charge his phone, called me back again to tell me that he is open to communicate with me anytime. Then the next day I told him I couldn't be friends with him, its either all or nothing..he just kept silent...then I asked why he wanted to be friends..he was kind of struggling to answer but he said so that we could confide in each other, see how we are doing, and then he even said that we could hangout, I know his family here is about to lose their home next month so I know what he meant when he wanted us to confide in each other, but he doesn't know that I know...I just told him that its not possible to be friends..He tells me we could only be friends, but does that really mean he wants to leave the door open slightly for a chance at our relationship? Otherwise a guy would just walk away coldly if he wanted a clean break? I don't know if this feeling I have just means that I'm in denial of this break up but I feel like there is still something between us despite what he says...
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 "He tells me we could only be friends"
Seems pretty self-explanatory to me...
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reader, corbandallas  +, writes (14 October 2010):
He cares about you still and knows that the break up hurt you. If you can't be friends with him just tell him. You need to move on. It doesn't mean he won't want you back at some point in the future, but you shouldn't wait around in the hopes of this happening.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 Yes, you are at the first stage of loss : denial.
I know of preciously few hard- assed guys who'd just "walk away coldly ". For some reason, most men are wimps when they break up- either they put on a total vanishing act and let you figure out by yourself what happened ,or,more often ,they are caritable and soften the blow with a classic "let's be friends ".
It does not mean that your ex could never possibly change his mind in future and wish to reconnect. But right now don't cling to him in wait that it happens.
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