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writes:I am divorced from my ex and have a child in common. To make a super long story short, this man emotionally and psychologically abused me, using his child, the courts, higher authorities, he abandoned me leaving with my child alone, unemployed and will every responsibility. He seemed to punish me for getting pregnant without his own consent. Therefore, he made me suffer, made me go through hell! After the divorce we were still seeing each other. He made me believe that we still had a chance by dating and having sex with me. He then confesses out of no where that there's another woman. I confront her, he humiliates me and degrades me. I decided to kick him out my life for good, I told him I would not take the blame for our failed marriage, and that I will no longer accept his emotional abuse! That's it! It ended right there. The man disappeared and completely derailed himself from his child. All of a sudden my phone rings late at night. I don't have caller ID on my house phone. However my cell does and one night it rang, I saw it was him when I picked up he decided to stay quiet. Now, my cell rings it IDs as unknown. Could it be him? Is this a sign I should watch out for? What is this reflecting? After that ex to fling confrontation, he had the nerve to ask me out for sex. What do you guys think? Could it be him? I don't pick up my cell not only because I don't answer unkown phone calls but because I don't want to fall into a trick. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies. There was a second in my life where I felt a little concerned but I brush it off. Being that he does not show to be into me like that, or is it that some men are good in covering the facts from women? I'm not sure if he's one of those. And yes, it was disturbing that he called to ask me out two weeks after my confrontation with his other woman. Sometimes, I just like to blind fold myself on these things, or perhaps i'm just incredulous. I don't know what to think. He calls sporadically, it's not like an every day thing. But now, after my confrontation on taking him out of my life, I find it incredible that he tried to contact me numerous times in a time lapse of every other month. Even if it's every other time could it also be classified as obsessive behavior? That is why I don't make such a big deal. The other day my son was looking out the window and he yelled "mom look at daddy". The windows were shut closed so I just thought he was seeing things.
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reader, Beingblack  +, writes (29 May 2009):
 This is sounding a little disturbing. The fact that he still wants sex with you after the 'other woman' trick means that he is not 'over' you at all.
I would be careful. This guy is showing signs of obsessive behaviour, which might lead to stalking and possibly violence.
Bear that in mind.
He thinks that even now he can still control you in every aspect.
Change your numbers, and if he turns up at your residence, you will know that he has serious issues.
If that happened, I would call the police, and be honest about the things that happened in the past, even if it is painful.
Keeping your child and yourself safe is the biggest priority.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): You should change both numbers! Have them unlisted and give them only to the necessary people. He will get the message that you want nothing further to do with him.
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