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anonymous
writes:so here's the deal..my ex-bf and I have officially been broken up for almost a year and a half now..we had opened and closed the lines of communication since then until recently..we began talking and seeing each other (hanging out..not exactly dating) again..he would admit to having feelings..but then do a 180 and say mean/hurtful things and blame me for it (his reason being that I broke his heart..when we actually did it to each other)anyway we've been talking but he said we shouldn't talk anymore because it reminded him to much of the past which hurt..I disagreed but he began ignoring my calls/texts..and finally answered me back saying to leave him alone for good..and so I did..this was about 2-3 wks ago..now he called me..came by..and is telling me that he can't go without seeing me or talking to me..when asked about "us" he simply said let's let the time tell now I'm confused..do I still have feelings for him?.. yes..and always will..but I don't know if this is a game..or not..should I believe how he says he feels?.. or just walk away
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (12 October 2008):
hiyah i think hes got so used to coming and going in an up and down relationship he thinks its normal to carry on coming back and leaving again, its really unfair on you both and you need to stop it now in order for you both to move on. your always going to have that feeling for him but it will change slightly given time, you cant live in the past and you need to keep reminding yourself it is past and you need to focus on the future now. personally i would let it go, youve been through so much together but i think a fresh is best for both of you. go and get on with your life rather than constantly finding yourself in this situation you feel stuck in.
its going to be hard but you will get through it and become the stronger person its just havin that power in you to say right ive had enough this is it, once your there you can finally start being your own person.
move on - hope this has helpped - its your choice but you need the best for you - x :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): I know exactly how you feel, my ex is doing almost the same thing. We've been broken up for 3 months, and we have opened and closed lines of communication like you guys. Sometimes she wants to talk and kiss and cuddle and all (not actually date)while saying how much she misses me and everything, and then the next thing I know she pretty much ignores me and doesn't put any effort into contacting me like I don't exist. She has done this several times, and really she only talks to me when it's good for her. So yes, to answer your question he is playing games. He's making you an option while you may want to make him a priority.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): I don't think that he is playing games...I just think that he is confused...honey your ex is your ex for a reason...and I know that this is an overused phrase..but it is true...yes you will always have feelings for your ex and it is easy to go back to an ex because you don't have to go through the process of getting to know someone all over again...but then once you do get together it usually doesnt last long and then you all are hurt all over again....basically im saying to just let it go...because if you continue this unhealthy cycle then you will only be hurting yourself and limiting yourself from meeting someone so much better than your ex...
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