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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now. He never discusses our future together and if i do mention it we always end up in an argument. He says i have nothing to worry about and he knows what he is doing.He hardly takes me out anymore he says he has no time and money for that. I am 23 now and he is 29 and well aware of my future plans yet he wont share his, im so confused. He never communicates with me in a mature way he either hangs up or storms out. Is he taking me for a ride?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 July 2010):
At five years, as a couple you should be talking about this and communicating. He doesn't seem to want to. So either he is taking you for a ride and is just using you, or he has no real life plan. In both cases, this isn't the sort of guy you should be with. If it had just been a year or so, I'd have said give it a little more time. But at five years, he should be discussing this with you.
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reader, oldromantic2010 +, writes (9 July 2010):
Well my darlin this sounds very familair. He is older than you, he's been out and done most of the things you are still looking forward to doing. He is being selfish sweetheart. If he wont take you out and treat you how you know you deserve to be treated someone else gladly will.
You may love this man but i've been with my fella for 8 years and things are going the exact same way. But he stopped wanting to go out and have fun about 2-3 years ago. We never do anything together and if we do its like I have to beg him. Why should I have to?? He started dating you when you were young and gave you what seemed like the world? Had a great time? Sex was amazing? And now everything is dying out?? I've alreadt decided I dont wanna be with him anymore and I need to find myself, who I am without a man...maybe you should do the same?? Best of luck x
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