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writes:my boyfriend is on a forum that talks about just BS stuff, the weather - girls - porn - sex pretty much anything but he's always saying things to people in a sexual way, for example a guy on there posted something that his gf sent him and he put a picture of his gf - and my bf asked for body shots and said "oh i deff just came" now he doesn't personally know this guy, or girl and wont ever know that it's pretty much just messing around on the internet - should i be worried?there were alot of guys on there making comments about how hot she was and what not - so it wasn't just him.is he a dude just being a dude?and i can't confront him about it, cause i was kinda wasn't suppose to find it i was snooping :\
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (10 January 2011):
 I wouldn't say it is a dude being a dude. It is obviously his personality, but I have never dated a guy who talked like that in rl or on the internet. It is up to you if it bothers you or not. If you find it innocent and his version of guy talk then it'll be fine.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Well this is entirely up to you if you are comfortable with this kind of behaviour then fair enough but if you are not then you need to tell him what you found and ask him why he feels the need to comment on strangers photos. But yes he probably is just a dude being a dude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): It depends. If you're bothered about it then I you should speak to him.
Personally; it would bother me. Sometimes i think guys use the excuse of being a guy to get away with things. Would your boyfriend be happy if you were looking at naked men and saying to your friends how wet it made you feel?
If you don't feel you can speak to him about this one situation, maybe talk about it in general. How you know some guys do ____ and that you would feel uncomfortable if he did?
A lot of people will have many different opinions but at the end of the day its up to you to decide whats acceptable in your relationship. If you're happy with him to do this; then thats fine, if not then you may need to discuss boundaries.
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