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writes:Hi,Well this is abit mad but I need some advise, Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 8 months now and I cant help it but I just keep thinking hes cheating on me since one day he was at work and called me and said he has to go back to work that night for a few hours, when he was getting ready for work that night I had a look at his phone I know its bad but I did it anyway and he had a girls number saved so me being paranoid I deleted the number, so as soon as he left for work he called me shouting at me saying I deleted the number and he had to call it to get to work and there where going to tell him where to go but sounds to me he was trying to call her as soon as he left. I called him about 1 hour after he left and he said hes still on his way to work which where he was going only usually takes about 30mins in the end it took him 2 hours to get there and 10 mins to get home cause he said his boss dropped him off which I really don't believe and when he came home all I could smell was alcohol he said he went into the pub for a beer after work at 11 oclock. I find it all abit strange and im really confused ive been cheeted on in the past and I don't know if im just being paranoid but does anyone else think that this is abit strange? also the girl in his phone kept trying to add him on facebook and he blocked her so she couldn't see anything which is weird because he said that night he had to call her to tell him where to go when he got to work then now hes saying she worked with him about 1 year ago.. when I ask him and question him about all this he just storms out and says I don't trust him, My hearts breaking here please tell me what yous think.. Thanks so much..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2013): Hi, it hard to make a conclusive decision that he is cheating. However, if you continue to treat him like you dont trust him and assuming he is being faithful, you will push him away.
If you can afford a detective, hire one and put mind to rest, and remember if nothing comes off this you need to trust him and stop pushing him away.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (26 May 2013):
I'm finding your story a bit confusing, but I want to say that you need to stop treating your boyfriend like he's cheating. Deleting a number out of his phone is ridiculous and something you have no right to do.
Some of his behavior does seem a little odd, but because it's kind of hard to read your question I'm not sure I can solidly say he's up to no good, especially because you are exhibiting some paranoid behavior.
Sit him down and don't accuse him, but point out the facts and ask him for an explanation. Tell him that his behavior makes you feel uncomfortable and you want him to sufficiently explain himself.
At some point you're going to have to decide if you believe him or not and if you're willing to tolerate his behavior.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (26 May 2013):
 that is a shady and not very good story. I would simply talk to the girl on FB and ask if she has been seeing your man. Ask her why he tried to call her and you may find that her made up story doesn't match his or you may find that she says "he has a girlfriend?". He sounds like a douche
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (26 May 2013):
 I think he's cheating on you. Follow your gut. If you feel like you need solid proof before you leave him, then investigate him a little more. A little snooping will give you answers and save you from wasting time on a loser. He will never admit to cheating. You practically have to catch him in the act and even then he'd say, "It wasn't me."
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