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writes:Hi all, just a quick question - in short my bf ( now more or less ex) took me for granted for a long time, and I allowed him too, but finally I got the strength , and backed right off, and stopped calling him, and showing him I cared as much.It took all my strength, but I backed off, and didn;t do anything, and he texted after three weeks, and I responded a week later and he got straight back to me. I wanted to give him time to reflect on his behaviour. Now when I do call him up now and then ( which I do, as I miss him sometimes,and miss hearing his voice), he picks up the phone really fast and answers my texts immediatley, where as he did not do that before. Does that mean he still likes me and is finally learning his lesson? Thanks- x
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reader, kate70  +, writes (15 January 2011):
Course he still likes you or he would not contact you. Sometimes people only really do relaise what they have once they see that they may lose it. Use yur new strength to buld a relationship with him that is more equal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Petinal. Thanks for answering my question. It;s encouraging to know I am on the right track!! The thing is.. do I have to keep this behaviour up all the time? or will there come a point when I can 'relax' a bit again? I do not want him to slip back into his old behaviour. X
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reader, petina1 +, writes (15 January 2011):
 He was obviously taking you for granted before. The old saying 'Keep em mean, keep em keen' is really true. Once a woman becomes a doormat for a man then it's a passport for him to do just what he likes. Sounds like you have found a way to keep him keen. Keep it up Girl and you will have him eating out of the palm of your hand.
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