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writes:I need some major advise i am so confused i wonder at times is love suppose to hurt? i have two daughters with two different men and the last man was almost perfect except for the fact that he didnt work..he was so nice understanding and romantic but the lack was in providing for me :( i soon met this other man and have been with him for a while now going on 3 years and its good at times but he is very controling and has major anger issues... today we went to one of my friends babys bday party and i had my hair a certain way and i walk up to him and the fellas and he makes fun of it and everyone even my friends start laughing i am very hurt about it and wonder if someone loves you so much will it hurt this way i really need advise.. anything would help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, curious0hot +, writes (31 January 2010):
 I think that you should talk to him about how to incident at the party made you feel. Some people just "play too much", but don't mean any harm.However, I see you also said that he is controlling/has anger issues; which I believe also makes you uncomfortable.Looks like you're dealing with inappropriate behavior just to be with a provider. I'm not going to pay your bills, so no further comment...
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reader, toucan20 +, writes (31 January 2010):
Love does hurt sweetie. it only hurts so you know who the true love of your life is. Hhe will not hurt you or cause pain:)
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (31 January 2010):
no, and you need to recalibrate your 'perfect' meter... it's not working right...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 January 2010):
Love only hurts when it's going wrong. And this is going wrong. This guy is making fun of you, controlling you, hurting you for no reason. You should move on from this guy.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 No, true love never hurts nor does it allow torment. If he truly loved you he would not have done such a thing especially in front if people you know mutually. What he has done is humiliate you. Te question is why?
My only guess is he either become a victim to the "bad boy" game thus delves in to tacticts of "treat em mean keep em keen" little does he know it means the exact opposite.
Honestly, it sounds as though the guy before, the one without a job was the right one for you, all he had to do was find a job. But still if it was true love the a job would not matter at all.
It maybe that you've never really experienced real true love, it is something rather unexplanable but if I can elaborate: Love truly defies all obsticals in it's path.
You deserve much better from a person, especially that you're a mother of two children. And your friends should have known better of you if they are really your friends.
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