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writes:Hi All,I was engaged when I met the girl of my dreams. My ex wasn't the one, so my new girl J, and I fell deeply in love. However, I kept in contact with my ex out of guilt. J didn't like this, and now, 3 years later, has had enough. We took a break 8 weeks ago, and she doesn't call or e-mail, though I do run into her andwe do talk. Last chat I said "It's been 8 weeks, where are you? She said, "I'm afraid if we get back together, everything will be great, then it'll get screwed up".She could've used that time to end it, if she didn't love me, and she said she still had this beautiful letter I wrote her. I want to marry her, but is shegone, or worth waiting for? Help please!!! Is shejust stringing me along to get back (though she is a very decent girl)? thanks
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (17 September 2005):
 From my point of view, I think she's still very keen on you but just isn't sure at this time. You can wait on or wait for her to call but never ever pressure her into making a decision. Thats what most guys tend to do whenever their ex's leave the door. The reconciliation should be mutual, not because one party decides to give in because the other begged. So, chill out mate, try to give it some time (only if u think if she's worth the wait, which I think she is cause you're already thinking of marrying her), and then after some time, ask her straight to the face (without sounding desperate) whether she wants to consider getting back and if she declines, thats your cue to move on!! But if you can move on now, so much the better but having been there myself, I understand it isnt exactly the easiest thing to do. Im pretty certain she still cares for you a lot from what you're saying. Good luck and I wish you all the best mate!!
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reader, pops +, writes (16 September 2005):
She's gone. One of the problems with looking for Miss Right is that she may be looking for Mr. Right. And, her definition of Mr. Right will probably be different than your own. Move on. She is being nice, to someone she cared deeply about, but is not willing to risk renewing a relationship.
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