A
female
age
,
*oders877
writes:Question I trust my guy of over 16 months but angers me that he send flirty suggestive taggs to one particular woman and she sends them back, she is married. I feel this is sends out the wrong message and when I sat down and talked with him about it he said he is tired of me being so jealous and its all for fun. I would not have a problem with it if he would send those same taggs to me since I am the one he spends time with but I receive none and his answer to that is because we were friends they are just a site to spend boredom time with. I feel sending suggestive sexy flirty taggs to each other sends the wrong message and its not fair to me this is happening. Need others opinions on this problem.
View related questions:
flirt, jealous Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 May 2012):
 I think he thinks you two are best friends. Are you in a sexual relationship or is this a purely platonic thing?
Maybe he needs deleting from your life if he can't tell the difference?
A
female
reader, coders877 +, writes (11 May 2012):
coders877 is verified as being by the original poster of the question my guy today deleted himself from this tagg site however she is still his friend on facebook but he will not add me says I am too envious or jealous to be friends on the internet he wants to continue having a normal best friend friendship relationship
...............................
A
male
reader, eddie85 +, writes (10 May 2012):
 It sounds like you are involved with a boy, not a man.
You don't give any examples of the flirty messages that he sends, but if they are truly inappropriate and you've raised an issue about it, he needs to respect you and put a stop to it.
There is a very fine line when it comes to this. I know if I was dating a woman who was doing this, she'd be kicked to the curb pretty fast. It shows a lack of respect for the institution of marriage as well as a lack of fidelity. In the back of my mind, I'd be worried that she'd act on her "harmless" texts and turn them in reality.
In short, your boyfriend is playing a game. He should be beyond the teenager-like antics and it reflects very poorly on his character. I think his actions should give you pause and I'd encourage you to make him realize that his actions and games are not healthy for your relationship.
Good luck.
...............................
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 May 2012):
 yeah well my ex husband did that... note he's my ex....
how would your bf feel if you did the same with another man?
I personally would not be happy if my committed partner was flirting with others via text...
and when he tells you it's your problem he's making excuses for his behavior.
it's wrong.
and it was one of the issues that ended my marriage. I asked him to stop and he didn't. it shows a lack of respect for you and your relationship.
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (10 May 2012):
 Does the husband of this married woman know about these texts? I would guess he doesnt and certainly wouldnt approve of them!
You have two choices here, either get evidence of all these texts and give them to her husband;
or
accept the situation so that you allow your bf to have his cake and to eat it.
PM me if you would like to chat further about this.
...............................
A
female
reader, Kassi (Nova)  +, writes (10 May 2012):
 I have had this problem with my husband. He tries too hard to be charming and flirts with every woman who will listen. The week we got married, I had to tell a barista at starbucks that she could keep her phone number after she made us coffee, and then had to explain that in only 3 days, he was going to be married to ME.
It's really disrespectful that he can't follow the relationship boundaries you're asking for: Monogamy. You're not asking for ownership of him, but for him to not advertise that he's available and interested when he isn't. This other woman may not think it's "just for fun" even if it is for him- and that can end ugly. Not everyone has the strength to say no when they're presented with the opportunity. If he were trustworthy, he wouldn't be flirting with another woman.
It sounds to me like he's sloughing off his being a huge jerk on you so that you feel inadequate and stupid and he doesn't have to feel guilty. Not a guy I'd side with.
...............................
|
