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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 weeks now. Since day one we agreed it is a serious and committed relationship..two weeks after we started dating he took me to his home town for the weekend and show me around and also meet jis family it was a casual meeting nothing formal....but I never had the chance to meet his parents b/c we got to thier place unannounced.....just to keep it casual.....on our way back he asked me to move in with him......we both love eachother sooo much and have excellent chemistry and respect for eachother. I am 24 and he is 30. He was married before but his wife left him for another man and it was a long distance marriage which only lasted for a year. But I can sense that he doesn't want a repeat of his first marriage...which he mentioned to me a couple of times not to change on him.....i love him to death. But am worried that he won't propose to me or marry me on a fear of what had happened to him I try to show him I am different....so far it seems to be working....i want to be atleast engaged to him because our,relationship is tooo serious to be only catagorized as just bf and gf...i want more title than that how do,i get him to propse to me without putting pressure on him.....another thing his ex regrates breaking,up with him and bagging him to forgivr her and feel sorry for her .....according to her she ignorred himwhile they were dating b/c her mother has stroke and her sister has cancer and I think she somehow made him feel bad about that he told her he moved on and is with me but she leaves in the same apartment complex and they run into eachother alot should I be worried what should I do thats one of the reasons why I want him to propose to me sooner....help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know it seems as though it is moving too fast but to be honest it feels as if we've known eachother forever.....we are very comfortable around eachother...... I guess am one of these impatient people.....so I take all your advices they make sense...and thank you all
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reader, LadyPinky +, writes (16 October 2010):
 Five weeks not a marriage make. Ive about the same again as you and have been with my boyfriend for a year and one month. Would I like to get married yes. But I know that its not the right time yet and I gotta have patience. As do you as the other readers wrote your young and in love enjoy what you have at this time not what you think you want now. Things can change in a month a week a day.You shouldnt marry someone to keep them form going back to their ex. Thats unfair to the both of you.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (16 October 2010):
5 weeks is more like the time that you take to fall in love...not move in and get engaged. Some people date for several weeks before even getting to the official gf bf titles. Wanting to progress to an engagement already is way too fast! Slow down and just enjoy the ride.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (16 October 2010):
 WHOA take it slow, you're only in your twenties. five weeks is approximately one hundredth of your lifetime so far..so this relationship, TIMEwise, represents 1% of your life. I think you need to slow down before you worry about proposals. Why are you in such a rush? If it's meant to be it will be, just enjoy yourself in the meantime. also, a lot can happen in the first weeks (or months or YEARS) of a relationship. DOn't rush into things just because you're in the honeymoon phase right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2010): Wow, that's quick.
First of all, you don't know this guy, and he doesn't know you.
Give it a few months, be good to each other, and as the trust and love develop you will get to where you want to go.
Move to fast, and you just get lost sooner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2010): Wai until 5 weeks = 5 years, perhaps?
You say your relationship is massively serious. You can barely know each other in 5 weeks. Take it from me. You only learn enough about one another in years, sorry. 5 weeks is a honeymoon period.
You also cannot get married on the terms of stopping him being with his ex. If he wants to be with his ex he'll be with her. Marriage or no marriage. Would you want a husband who wasn't 100% fully head over heels with you and had some doubt in his mind about who he wanted? SLOW DOWN. Good things come to those who wait. Good luck.
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