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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes: hi ijust met this guy he is 46 is it wrong to date someone older then you? and there is this other guy that i really like but he told me to move on what should i do? there is a friend that keeps coming over wanting to have sex how can i tell him i don't want to have sex with him anymore
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reader, shontah +, writes (29 January 2010):
im 22 years old & im dating a 43yr old man. he is the love of my life& we're expecting twin gurls. keep the older guy, drop the guy who is after sex,& do ya ya thangling girlfriend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): age is nothing but a number. it depends on the people concerned. as long as you are not a third party in this much older mans life then he is fair game. but just becareful that with time you may outgrow this older man.
the aunts have answered your other questions so i will not add to it.
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reader, gurunikki  +, writes (19 January 2010):
No there is absolutely nothing wrong with dating older men. I am in fact 23 and married to a man of 45 and blissfully happy!! Older men are much maturer. So long as you think you can cope with the occasional small minded persons negative comments, go for it.
as for the guy that told you to move on...do just that and move on.
the guy thats pestering you for sex, tell him to move on... dont be pressurised into having sex with ANYONE.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): 1.) If you really like the older man and are willing to accept the challenges, then by all means do it. But just be prepared as there will be challenges. He will be of a different maturity level, he could develop physical/health problems shortly, if you are planning on having a family there will be questions for your kids and their friends, look at mommy and grandpa, etc. Be prepared to deal/handle these situations.
I have a friend who was completely happy for the first couple of years, but now her older man doesn't go out so often as he is "tired", not in the mood, etc. She is tired of sitting at home all the time, it makes her feel old too.
Anyways if that is ok with you, then good luck with it.
2. If he said move on, then do it and never look back. If he comes back later....too late, his loss, not yours!
3. You don't want sex, tell him bluntly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): Oh my. You seem to have a selection of guys! Tell your friend who just wants sex that you arent interested anymore. If there isnt a proper relationship, he shouldnt be too upset beyond being a little peeved the sex has stopped.
Do as the 2nd guy said and move on.
As for dating an older person. If you like each other and enjoy each others company...you are doing alot better than most, so dont worry about the age difference.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 January 2010):
1). No, there is nothing wrong with dating an older person. I'm seeing an older woman.
2). Tell your friend that you're not interested in having sex with him because you need to move on with your life.
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