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writes:I honestly dont know what the hells going on! I need your help, badly, because i cant let this guy go. Yes i really like him but even without that coming into it, hes means a lot to me as a friend and i hope we can be great friends. I just dont understand how hes acting. The thing is its not constant like, hes always shy with me, or hes always not talking to me because it changes. literally sometimes its from day to day it changes. Thing is when we first met we were in the same class, we got on well, really well. Then i used to notice he would keep looking at me/staring. That got worse and worse because he used to do it a hell of a lot! We never did speak much back then though after that as something was said by some girl in the class that really liked him and she spread a lot of rumors about me(which i later head from someone else was her way of putting this guy off me) Anyway back then it was weird. We sat together but never really spoke. It was like this all throughout it:Sometimes we would sit down and he;d just talk to me without a problem like anyone else, but not for to long and it wasnt about anything in particular.We would sit down and he just wouldnt talk to me, he'd speak to everyone else but not me and If i spoke to him it was just one word answers.Sometimes he spoke to me but seemed a bit shy like he didnt know what to say.Other times if we were alone he would sit down and just start telling me about this like what he'd been doing. He used to say hey to everyone else and then just stare at me for a few seconds, no hi or anything.(this was also if we went out with mates out of college)If we speak online or if we meet up he will talk back but im the one that has to start the conversation.Even when we met up alone for a drink once he asked me how things were going and said a few things like once we got into the conversation he was fine but other than that we both found it hard to make the conversation.other times he would talk to me but like as he was talking to all of us as a group.Occasionally he;d just ask me random things like even if other people were there.Yet when we did go out with a few others, he just spoke to them and stayed quiet with me, barely said anything, again i had to talk to him and he never continued that conversation.Thing is i know you possibly wont believe me but he IS NOT a player. hes really sweet, kind, very big headed lol. Hes a quiet guy in general, kinda shy, people have said he does seem shy around me and occasionally nervous but i find it hard to define. He would never use anyone. I know what his familes like and stuff, only met them a few times and ive never said much to them and thats only if we've seen them like in the pub at these events we go to. Thing is i say hes quiet and shy, he is but he'll talk to anyone, he'll always make the effort to be friendly with people and get on with them. he;s said in the past im a great friend to him so i never understand it. I dont wanna loose his friendship but i think theres a reason hes acting this way. I cant talk to him out right and ask him because he just wont talk about anything like this, not only with me but others. What do you thinks going on with him!
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reader, klairabell  +, writes (21 January 2010):
I think he likes u... Like wants to be in a relationship with u. Some guys r really shy.. And what u say in your question that he talked to u then doesn't... Its cuz he doesn't know what to say around u.. Girl he likes u ask him out!!!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 January 2010):
It sounds like he does like you. But if he's that shy and won't open up, you need to move on. However, I think if you take him aside, tell you really like him, then ask him out, he might respond. If he doesn't, then you need to move on.
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