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anonymous
writes:Hi,I am a Jewish white male. Is it "wrong" that I have a thing for females of a different race or religion? And girls - if you are a different race or religion, would you date a Jewish, or white man?Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 October 2016):
 You like who you like, no harm in that. The only thing with different races is different religions and different beliefs but if you can both over come that then perfect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2016): No it's not wrong lol. I'm a cute short Asian girl and have dated all kind of guys, my first boo and first boyfriend was Jewish though. I'm prob a lot like you that I prefer people diff from me, I do have a thing for Jewish guys ....something about the big nose and dark hair and brown or hazel eyes ( not into blonde or blue eyed Jews or guys though :/) The chemistry with my first bf was great lol, he was Jewish but atheist like me, nerdy!- engineer and enjoyed games and amazing sex. But he ended things to take aliyah to Israel. I miss him buy there's nothing wrong with liking people who are different from you. It adds chemistry and fun :) just have fun.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 October 2016):
 What curious answer, male anon.
I have Jewish friends who made excellent wives and mothers, as for Jewish girls being great in bed, I have no idea, but I'll gladly take your word for that.
So what ?
ONLY Jewish girls make great wives, mothers and sex partners ? Says who ? How do you know ? Isn't it at least possible, or conceivable, that a Catholic girl too, or AfroAmerican girl, or Hindu girl, or etc.etc. etc. may make a great wife mother and lover as well ?, or even be better ?
Let's reserve labels for when they are useful or necessary ( canned foods ? purebreed dog shows ? ..) ,for the rest let's try to relate to people based on a case-by-case basis , according to how compatible are with our personality, mindset and life goals...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2016): I have dated jewish girls before. I think they make excellent wives and mothers.Even in bed they are great.Why date others?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2016): There's nothing wrong with it, but I'm wondering if you have a thing for them just because they are a different race and/or religion. Like maybe it feels taboo and that excites you or maybe you find them exotic. I hope that when you're ready for a committed relationship you make sure you base your attraction on more than race/religion. I hope you look beyond the surface, for something deeper than just that.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 October 2016):
 As a Jewish mother of a son married to a lovely shiksa goddess that I adore I will say it's not "wrong" but most Jewish boys are raised that "Shiksa's are for practice"
It's wrong if you are ortohdox.
It' difficult if you are at all observant but if you are a secular Jew (meaning you are Jewish by heritage but do not go to synagogue or observe any of the religious aspects of Judaism) then it's not a big deal.
In my son's case, it was not wrong for me but I do not go to synagogue or observe any of the religious aspects of Judaism. On the other hand it was VERY wrong for his father and stepmother who are Orthodox and have cut off all contact with him because of his choice of wives.
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reader, Baxteur  +, writes (22 October 2016):
I also have a thing for women of other races you know...my society(friends and family) is okay with it...
It just depends where you are, on the norms of your society and how you respond to them...
Saying one shouldnt date with another of a different kind is a racist thing to do, it's not romantic at all...
In case u think of marrying, religious families can put a lot of fuss, questioning about your religious integrity (and the potentially potential religious conflict), the mixed race of your offspring and what not but that doesn't stop your love for her, and you wont fall for women of your race if you dont fall for them, dont try to force it it not fun ,its not you and its not gonna work well...
I dont think its wrong at all - it's just strange...people call it foriegn love...
If it were me in your position I'd date her very much
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (22 October 2016):
Obviously you never watched Seinfeld reruns :)
Says George Costanza : " You've got Shiksappeal . Jewish men like the idea of meeting a woman that's not like their mother ".
There's a huge literature ( part comedic, and part serious ) about the attraction of Jewish men for Shiksas ( non - Jewish females ). So huge to have become a literary and mediatic cliche'. You are definitely not alone !
Now, typically a Shiksa would be a blonde, blue -eyed WASP- but since you stress the fact of your being Caucasian I guess you are attracted , or also attracted, to non- Caucasian women ( Afro-Americans, Asians, etc... ) Same thing. As long as she is not your typical Shayna Maidel next door...
Is it wrong ? It depends whom you ask. If you ask non religious, or non - Jewish people, they'll all say : Of course not ! Why should it be wrong ? People are people, whatever race / religion they belong too.
If you ask to observant Jews, they'll say yes . Like most cultures, traditionally Jewish society looks down on members marryng outsiders. Mixed couples won't necessarily perpetuate the traditions and beliefs which bind Jewish society together. In fact, children to a non- Jewish mother aren't Jewish themselves by religious law.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (22 October 2016):
 It's not wrong; it's common. People are attracted to different things, though you should focus on finding someone compatible, rather than their skin colour.
Different religions can make it tricky because beliefs are different and that can become a deal breaker in terms of existing families and future children.
It's okay to look for women who aren't Jewish, but you'd probably be more compatible with one who is.
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