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writes:Hi guys ,This isn't so much as a problem but I would just like some thoughts.Last month I was on my mates hen weekend and whilst we were in a local pub another group of guys started chatting to us. None of them particulaly good looking. Now 1 of them started talking to me, he wasn't my usuL type BUT when I found out he was a doctor I immediatly felt attracted to him!!! We swapped numbers and then met for a drink shortly after. We got on but I know that if he said he worked in an office or did an average job I wouldn't be attracted to him.I want to make it clear i'm NOT interested in the money aspect I'm attracted to the status of his job. I mean I always fantasised about going out with a driving examiner-their salary isn't great but it's what they stand for.Shall I see him again or not? He us a nice guy and physically I could find him attractive but if he ever stopped being a doctor my feelings could change.Thoughts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): been there, done that, wrong thing to do. Have you thought about the fact that if ur not really attracted to him and then u are when u find out he's a Doctor, do u not think that this has happened to him HUNDREDS of times before. he knows this Doctor thing is a chic magnet. Cut hime loose unless u want a one-night stand cause odds on that he's pretty sure he's reeling you in with this line (whether it's true or not), it's worked for him before.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 Hmm, that just seems so shallow, sorry. (no offense)
However, if you think there might be more to it, I would go out on a date and see. Maybe once you spend time the whole "doctor" thing will not be important. He might be a real nice guy (aside from being a doctor), he might be an ass. You will never know unless you go out.
And I agree with Caring guy - You need to learn how to like a person for WHO they are not WHAT they are.
Good luck,
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 April 2010):
If you are basing your attraction only on him being a doctor, then clearly this may not work out. Naturally you'll be attracted to certain types. There are women who like a man in uniform, women who like actors and musicians, women who like professionals, women who like tradesmen. It works like that. Of course you will be attracted to his status as a doctor. But you must be attracted to WHO is and and not just WHAT he is. If you only like him because he's a doctor, and not because he's a great guy who you love, then you need to end it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): So if he is a doctor and that was the initial attraction? Why don't you see him for a bit and see what he is really all about and then decide? Try to rise above the whole doctor thing! xx
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reader, hpoco  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 Maybe it would be better if you could find a doctor that you ARE attracted to, and then date that guy.
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