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writes:hi everyoneI'm really confused! Is it wrong that a girl talks to her brothers about everything in her life including her sex life?I'm a 21 year old girl and I have 2 brothers (24 and 18) we used to talk about everything with each other like love issues school problems and sex since we were kids, we even don't have to wear cloths around each other.Now my friends are telling me that it's wrong and I must stop now, I couldn't find good reason to do so.So Dear Cupid do I have to stop? Is it wrong and why?Love
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): Well, I guess that depends on how specific you get when you are talking about your sex life with them. Do you talk about specific sex techniques and things that you do? And do your brothers seem to enjoy talking to you about that? If so, and you feel OK with it, don't let anyone else tell you that it's wrong. You and your brothers know each other better than anyone else.
Also, do you spend a lot of time naked around each other? If so, how often? Do you like seeing your brothers naked? Do they seem to enjoy seeing you naked? Or do you not notice each other's naked bodies that much?
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reader, Yargh +, writes (13 February 2008):
 I used to know a family of 7 that rarely wore clothes while at home. They had a picnic style dinner table, and I used to be shocked whey I came over and saw all their naked bottoms lined up in a row at the table. However, as an adult I see nothing wrong with it; different people have different norms that they subscribe to. When you think about it, clothing has not been a necessity for many human cultures throughout the ages. Many, many have probably spent most of their lives practically nude around their relatives and friends, and thought nothing of it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): I think as long as you and your brothers are comfortable talking about your sex lives and walking around naked in front of each other, there's no need to stop. One question I would have though is this: do you talk about sex when you are naked in front of each other?The only concern would be is if your brothers become sexually aroused from seeing you naked, or if you find yourself thinking about sexual acts when you see them naked. Have you or your brothers ever had this happen?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): And I just wanted to add because I just read a comment below that called your lifestyle "peculiar." I find that condescending to say and like I previously said, I don't think you are peculiar in the least. I know many families including my own who are very open about stuff like that. Its cultural. Your family probably are descendant from France or Spain, (that is where my family is from) where it is totally acceptable to be open about nudity. Go to any beach in France and women are topless. They are cultures that are open about nudity. There is nothing peculiar about that in some cultures. And I personally find the sort of "hiding" your body and being skeptical of your own family type of attitude, I actually find that weird and peculiar.
And I just got to throw this out but romance cultures just inherently believe in the goodness of human nature as is evident in the writings of french philosophers Rousseau and Descartes. They believe that humans are inherently peaceful and good natured and that accounts for why they are so trusting and open about nudity. On the other hand, northern European cultures have historically been very skeptical of human nature, believing that humans are inherently sketchy and that you have to be weary of them as is evident in the writings of english philosphers Thomas Hobbes and John Locke. This accounts for this attitude of not even trusting your own famiy with your nudity or whatever. Its historical and cultural. One is not any more peculiar than the other. They are just different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): No I don't think its wrong. I don't have brothers and we were all women in my house. And my mom and sis used to walk around naked infront of me all the time. And when I was little my dad used to walk around in his underwear.
And I wish I could have been open like that with my own family members. Look there is nothing wrong with it and ALOT of family's are really close like that. Maybe just not your friends famiies.
I had a bf who I know for a fact his whole family used to walk around each other in their underwear, including his sister. I would probably find it weirder if someone didn't feel comfortable seeing their own family member naked only because it would make me wonder why they would feel so uncomfortable?? What are they trying to hide. If its just your family then it shouldn't make you feel uncomfortable unless you have something to hide. You see what I am saying. So no I don't see absolutely anything wrong about the nakedness. NOTHING wrong.
And I think you are lucky that you have close siblings who you can talk to. Family is so important and its wonderful that you have them so closely in your life. I wish I had that.
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reader, keba  +, writes (14 January 2008):
 sweety you and your brothers grow up together and it is not like your sleeping with them and atleast they wont lie to you like some of your friends may they would gide into the right direction plus you would feel safer try doing it around your girlfriends you might be shock to see some of them reaction they might just like and envy what you have
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): Firstly i think thats it is great that you have a good relationship with your brothers and you can clearly talk about things and feel comfortable around each other.
But, i agree with the first answer - just dont go into detail about your sex life and the clothes thing is a bit odd.
Personally i have brothers and we are all close, i can talk to them about my bf but i wouldnt mention anything to do with sex.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 January 2008):
 Ooops! You have a nudist colony in your house and being naked around each other is normal .It maybe normal in your family. Just as nudist would proclaim that it is normal to be naked.
We cannot say it is wrong as you grow up in that environment. You feel at ease with each other's nudity and you can talk about everything under the sky. That is good.
You can do whatever you like in your own home but I hope you will not do the same when you are away from your home because the outside world is not the same standards.
As long as you feel comfortable doing what you are doing in your house with your brothers, no one should say that you are wrong. It is just your peculiar way of lifestyle which you were brought up in.Just like those lost tribes in some remote jungles , who don't wear a stitch of clothes on them.
Many people think it is improper and indecent to be nude and it may tempt the man to have sex .The men are attracted by the visuals but your brother have seen all they wanted and there is no novelty about the female body.
It is like living in a nudist community.Would you say that they are wrong?
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (14 January 2008):
 Ok talking with your brothers is fine as long as you dont go into too much detail i think the weird thing is not wearing clothes around each other
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