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*omana
writes:I'm 17 and this is like the fist time I'd had a relationship but there has been a lot of problems lately, for example my best friend told me that my boyfriend was hitting on her and blablabla anyways I was suppose to break up with him but instead I kept crying in bed for like more that 7 hours daily and I just couldn't break up with him, I never imagined us together for more than a year but I just couldn't let go at all. It's not like I get the feeling that I won't meet anyone else, that's why I'm lost and it wasn't like our first issue I don't even know if he really loves me back so any help, or advice !!!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 January 2008):
[i told him that i don't accept my boyfriend being that sweet with other girls than me so if you accept that fact then ok ]Unquote
You have told him how you felt.A man and woman do not think the same. You should not be too strict with this as your b/f will feel suffocated. This is called possessive and jealousy.Allow him some leeway . Ask him not to do in your presence and what he does behind your back , it is not your concern.
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reader, jomana +, writes (15 January 2008):
jomana is verified as being by the original poster of the question well i did talk to him and he sent me all the conversations on line when they were talking and he told me it may have sounded like i was hitting on her but i wasn't i was just talkin to a person whom i thought was a friend and then he told me if you realized she just told you what i said and not what she said in return or before ... so right now i'm still with him but i get the feeling that sooner he will be hitting or doing what ever with some one else . i told him that i don't accept my boyfriend being that sweet with other girls than me so if you accept that fact then ok , if not then i think we won't be togther so he was like ok fine ,so i don't know , what do you think ?
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reader, moocha +, writes (14 January 2008):
i think a lot of your feelings are because this is your first relationship. Deep down i think you already know that you have to end it with him, of course that would make you feel sad as you have invested in this relationship. But do you really think you deserve someone who would hit on your best friend? At 17 you can set the standard for the rest of your life, dont let a boy beat you down and make you accept less from a relationship. Give yourself time to cry and then make the decision to not let this person ruin your life. After all there was a time a few months ago when you didnt need him, and there will be a time soon when you wont again.
Take a deep breath, finish it and concentrate on finding someone who doesnt make you cry or flirts with your mates.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (14 January 2008):
Associate him with something you hate the most and vilify him.In your dreams , see him as the vilest creature on Earth.When you think of him , imposed that image of him and you will get repugnant feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): Talk to him, your best friend could be lying so get him to come clean about what he thinks of you. You will then have a clearer picture of where the relationship is heading. If the worst occurs, theres plenty of other guys out there that will treat you better.
Hope all goes well
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