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writes:I am deeply in love with someone, He buys me drinks all the time, drives me home when I don't have a car, talks to me when I'm down, looks at me from afar and when we see eye to eye he smiles, we're both in the same college. he's every girls dream and has the same interest with me, we would take short walks to a nearby mall after college, he looks at me and tries to spend as much time hanging around me. Yet, I'm not very sure if he's interested in me or not. If he is, what should I do? and... he's 10years older than I am. I'm 19 and he's 29. is it wrong for me to be so in love with someone this old? I enjoy talking and spending time with him... but sometimes I'm just not sure if he feels the same way too. I'm afraid that, if I asked, we won't even be friends. he is someone I really keep close to my heart and am very afraid to lose. what should I do to maintain the current bond we have? Reply to this Question
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reader, Bill23 +, writes (15 February 2009):
Age is nothing but a number
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reader, anoms  +, writes (13 February 2009):
 ok stop right there im putting myself in this guys shoes, i guarantee this guy is interested but because of your age difference he is to scared to make the first move, i know i would be. If he made a move and you turned him down he must feel like it would wreck your friendship, if you can make it clear to him, so he had no doubts before he asks you out. you can do abit better then smiling and making eye contact im sure, why dont you make up a few silly excuses to get him closer to you, ask him for help with something, ask him for a list home then invite him in for a beverage, well whatever you do take a little risk or you'l regret it, gudluk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): it not weird....u cant help who u fall in love with!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): Next time you see him tell him that you care for him. If you are too nervous to say it just lean in and kiss him, if you are drinking you can blame it on the alcohol if it makes him nervous. It is so hard to read men they are more confusing then women. Read his body language and listen to some of the things he says to you. If he calls you buddy or lil sis or anything like that chances are he cares about you as a friend only. No it is ok to love some one 10 yrs older. I love a man who is 8 yrs older and my sister is with a man that is 12 years older. He may be nervous about liking a girl your age at 19 we still have some growing up to do. At that age we still don't know who we are or where we are going in life and sometimes that makes older men nervous because they have already done the party scene, the dating, and you have not had as much experience and that can be hard. Although, men do like to "train" women to make them what they want them to be. Just be careful not to get yourself so involved with this guy until you know that he likes you too. Hell maybe you should ask him on a date, he may respond.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks ya'll.. but exactly how do I give him the "green light" without making it seem desperate or odd?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): Girl, I am 23 and with a guy that is 39. We have 2 kids together, but we have been together since I was 16. There is nothing wrong with dating someone who is older than you! If he does like you, and he probably does from how you spoke, just go with the flow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): If you want to maintain the current bond, you don't have to do anything different to what you're doing now, but if you want things to go further you ought to give him the green light somehow. He's possibly thinking that you think he's too old for you! He certainly seems like he's got some interest in you.
Why not tell him what's on your mind? Nothing ventured, nothing gained. You could put it in a hypothetical way - something like "How would you react if I told you I fancied the pants off you?" or something a little more subtle.
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reader, URSXNENA  +, writes (13 February 2009):
 Well ... just tell him how u feel ... its not really wrong to love someone older ... age doesnt really matter ... just talk to him cause he could feel the same way ... u never kno !
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